On Father’s Day
I said something really thoughtless to my Dad a few years ago, and I’m really thankful I did.
We were driving to the airport, so I could fly to Manchester and start my college life there.
He was yelling at me in the car. I’d never heard him yell before; to date, he remains the calmest man I’ve known. Never in my life had I imagined I’d hear him raise his voice.
I tried to reason with him, but as always, he was right. Why are Dads always right?! I can’t even remember exactly what was said, but he was furious and I was wrong. He kept yelling, and he kept driving.
Anyway, when we got to the airport, it was time to drop me off. My head hurt, and I had no idea what to say. So I didn’t think, I just went with my heart and thoughtlessly said the only thing that came naturally: “I love you, Dad”.
As soon as I said it, I realised I had absolutely no idea why I said it. It didn’t even make sense. We weren’t an emotional father and son. We never talked on the phone during 7 years of boarding school. We didn’t go on fishing trips, or do super cute father-and-son stuff, whatever that is.
In fact, immediately after I said it, it occurred to me that in my eighteen years of existence, I’d never once told Dad that I loved him. He simply hugged me, and told me he loved me too.
He died three months later, in a car crash. These remain the last words we said to each other in person.
Today, people overanalyse a lot of things, what their coworkers think, what their friends think, what their boyfriend or girlfriend thinks. But whatever you do, don’t ever overthink when it comes to family, especially your Dad.
Follow your heart, don’t think, and tell your old man you love him. Do it today. NOW. Tell him in person, on Facebook, WhatsApp or write it on the damn moon, but trust me, just do it, without a second thought. You’ll thank yourself later. Why?
Because I said something really thoughtless to my Dad a few years ago, and I’m really thankful I did.