Most Offensive Stereotypes About Plus Sized People
It is not easy being a woman, especially if you don’t conform to the societal norms. Life is tough if you are a plus-sized woman. Magazine covers are full of air-brushed models, unrealistic representations, and judgment. One must realize the falsehood of these things and have move on from comparing oneself to models and actors.
As a plus-sized woman, however, I’m frequently annoyed with stereotypes and assumptions about us. It’s time us big girls spoke up and were heard.
There are many different reasons someone could be overweight-which is why the stereotypes are so aggravating. There are many women battling hormonal disorders, auto-immune disorders, to name a few.But I think it’s safe to say that generalizing ANY group of people is ignorant, wrong, and dangerous. Overweight women (and men) are no exception.
Below are the top most offensive stereotypes I’ve experienced and I think it’s time to call them out.
We’re always eating.
Think of the TV sitcom where the token fat person is always shoving chips in their face and has no self-control. This is perhaps the laziest writing for some quick laughs at the expense of fat people. But it’s a common stereotype and it’s annoying.
We’re all lazy.
No we don’t binge watch Netflix all day long. Some of us have work to do, studies and assignments to complete and struggle to make a living, because our size restricts opportunities for us. Just because we don’t wear sports bras and hangout at the gym, doesn’t mean we are lazy.
We’re all sick as a result of our weight.
I realize that being overweight increases the risk of a multitude of diseases and issues (heart disease, diabetes, etc.). But it’s not a GUARANTEE and you can’t assume that an overweight person is leading a junk lifestyle and is unhealthy.
We’re jealous of thin people.
Not long ago, someone at on Twitter who happens to be straight-sized and skinny, made a big point tweeting on and on about how fat she thinks she’s getting.
When someone who is obviously quite thin says this to someone who is obviously heavier, the first thing that comes to mind is that they want you to say “Oh, I wish I was as thin as you! You aren’t fat at all!” It’s an obvious fish for a compliment.
Here’s the thing, I don’t care about who is thinner than me. I’m not comparing myself to them! And if they need a fat person to envy them to feel good about themselves, then I feel sorry for them.
We all have low self esteem and feel awful about ourselves.
I’m currently almost at my highest weight (and I’m aging), I feel better about myself than I ever have.
We don’t know we’re fat.
I’ve had more than one person over my life feel the need to point out to me that I’m fat. We don’t need for people to make us aware of being overweight. We’re perfectly capable of knowing this on our own, and believe me — we know it.
We don’t know how to lose weight ourselves.
We don’t need to be enlightened with unsolicited advice as if we aren’t aware that you need to burn more calories than you consume in order to lose weight. We aren’t all completely helpless in this capacity and for many of us, if want to lose weight bad enough, we’ll do it!
Sure, there are educated professionals who are very skillful and experienced in helping people reach their goals. Nutritionists, personal trainers, coaches, etc., I’m not at all saying they’re not important or valuable. What I mean is, we don’t need the “stink eye” if we happen to indulge in seconds or have a dessert.
We’re all jolly slobs.
Is it really that funny for so many silly, bumbling TV, book, and movie characters to be chubby? Do they so often need to be represented as simple-minded, adorable goofballs? We aren’t all stupid and uneducated, yet loveable idiots. We just want to be treated like the rest.
Some of us are actually very educated, successful professionals. We’re goal-oriented and have a lot to offer an organization with our well-developed careers.
There is a link to obesity and hygiene.
We also are no less likely to look or dress professionally to present ourselves well. You see fat characters in movies and tv shows with stains on their shirts, wrinkled clothes, general unkempt appearance. This shouldn’t even have to be said but, not every overweight person is unhygienic.
That it’s anyone else’s business or that discrimination should be tolerated.
What I want to say to these creators of the stereotypes is this-if it doesn’t affect you, then don’t judge. It’s not really anyone else’s business what someone weighs or what size they wear. It’s not OK to transfer your own low self-esteem toward a fat person in order to make yourself feel better.
Stereotypes and assumptions are destructive. This is where discrimination is born. This is how we are passed over for promotions and opportunity. It’s not OK to discriminate against someone for any reason, and size is not an exception.
It’s out there, the challenge is real. It’s time we spoke out.