We’ve all experienced things going drastically wrong in life and have failed at some things. Here are a few of mine:
- Faced constant job application rejections in 2018.
- Didn’t get into a software engineering bootcamp I applied for.
I was told through each experience that it’s not the end of the world, everything will work out in the end. Although this was true it didn’t help the fact that it completely threw me off what to do next. Each time I would ask myself how exactly am I supposed to bounce back from this, and the last thing I wanted to think of was what I could do next that will help me to either: move on from this situation or to make the most out of it, which I am sure is something we can all relate to.
The good news is that I managed to bounce back and learnt so much along the way. In fact most of the things I classed as failures actually prepared me for a majority of the huge successes I’ve had so far . Those “failures” were my best teachers. I had to take practical steps to get there however, which consisted of taking steps to improve my mental wellbeing and resilience and also involved me working smarter and harder in order to acquire a better mindset. All of these actions resulted in me receiving even better opportunities and accomplishing great things in the long run.
Knowing that experiencing failures is something that is simply a part of all our mind-boggling journeys, I wanted to lay down some practical steps to take when things don’t go as expected.
SURROUNDINGS- This is so important. Who you have around you will determine a lot of things. In this case it will help determine how effective your support system is. Don’t keep how you feel inside. Have reliable friends, mentors and family around you that you can reach out to, to let it all out. You could also write down how you feel, take a break by going on a walk or treat yourself to your favourite food/ film. Anything that will cheer you up. Alternatively there are communities and organisations you can reach out to who provide great services, from helping you to find a job to helping you improve your mental wellbeing;
- The Mix -Check these guys out! They are UK’s leading support service for young people and can help you take on any challenge you’re facing.
THE POWER OF SOCIAL MEDIA- There are so many opportunites out there,especially via social media and as one door closes, best believe another one has already opened! Look through your social media accounts and utilise it to find your next opportunity. Here are a few tips:
1.Get a notebook firstly to write down your thoughts and goals and plans. Don’t search aimlessly.
2.Write a post expressing specifically what you are looking for. Alternatively you can reach out directly to people, for example:-
-“Do you know anyone who works in this field?”.
-“Are you able to help me plan my university essay?”.
FLEXIBLITY- Be flexible with your plans. Life happens and things don’t always turn out how you want them to and that is OKAY. It’s vital that you are open minded and willing to try out different routes. Here are two practical ways you can be flexible with your plans:
- Be proactive: Attend networking events to find out what options and opportunities are out there. This is a great way to explore the different routes available to you. Then try to actively seek them out, you never know where it could take you. Check out my instagram to see what events I’ll be attending.
- Find a mentor: They can help you to manage your expectations better, connect you with useful people and help you to explore your options to help put you on the right path.Your next mentor could be within arms reach, seriously don’t overthink it. Check out MentorYou to help you find one.
LEARN - There are people who have been there, done that and have written books about it so that we can learn from their experiences and use it to our advantage. I recommend reading the following books to get some amazing tips and advice that can help you bounce back or just help you in general in terms of next steps to take.
I hope this post has been helpful. Let me know what you think and be on the look out for my next post. Ciao!