Things to Avoid When Your Girlfriend is on Her Period
How can you help your girl deal with her period
Most women suffer from a wide range of physical and emotional discomfort during their periods. When your girlfriend is on her period, you should at least know how to behave compassionately and not irritate her further. Periods are a natural biological phenomenon but are difficult for women of all age groups.
The level of discomfort during the periods may vary from a little pain and uneasiness to serious cramps along with severe emotional trauma. It not only varies for different women, but for the same woman also, it may come with different symptoms every month.
What makes it even more complex is the fact that the other gender seems to be less aware of the complexities associated with it. In some countries, even the discussion on this topic in public is considered taboo.
Many educated men also understand only the biological part of it but fail to empathize with their spouses. What makes the situation even worse is when men try to insensitively explain their biological knowledge about periods to their spouses during their periods (As if they are not aware of that) and tell them to behave normally as this is a common monthly phenomenon and will not be fatal.
Good emotional support and understanding from your end can make your girl’s experience of the period less stressful.
Here is a list of things you should avoid when your girl is on her period.
1. First of all, never say that you are throwing tantrums or PMSing
Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) includes a variety of symptoms like irritability, mood swings, fatigue, food cravings, depression, and many more. These symptoms may tend to begin a few days before the period and may continue during her period. Hearing that “you are PMSing” is one of the worst things for a girl who is suffering from the trauma of a period (Even when she is not on her period, it is one of the worst things for her to hear).
2. If She Is Irritated And Is Talking Rudely, Don’t Start Arguing
Please understand that she is already suffering due to her period, and might be rudely talking due to that. Do not start arguing or proving her wrong at that time. This may make her day even worse.
3. Don’t Force Her To Be Active
Let her rest and be lazy. Whenever she will feel good, she will be active herself.
4. Don’t Ask Her To Socialize
You cannot expect her to be socially active when she is on her period. Let her decide when she wants to socialize.
5. Be Kind, Patient, And Attentive
And do not ignore what she says. Try to always be kind and pamper her. Doing this will help her to deal with her period.
6. Let Her Eat Junk Or Whatever She Wishes (Don’t Point Out That It Is Unhealthy)
If you are a health freak and do not want her to eat that, you may politely tell it to her after a few days (but never at that time). However, you may gently ask her to limit her consumption of coffee, cigarette, or alcohol as these may be more dangerous for her while she is on her periods.
7. Do Not Interrupt Her Sleep
Having a sound sleep might reduce her stress during the period. Let her sleep without any disturbance from your end.
8. Don’t Try To Explain To Her That Periods Are Normal And She Will Be Okay Soon
She knows that. You don’t need to tell her, so please don’t.
9. Don’t Mess Up The Washroom And Home
Try to keep the home and washrooms clean. This small thing may reduce her work and help her a lot.
10. Don’t Try To Get Intimate If She Is Unwilling
This is a universal point, no matter whether she is on her period or not.
11. Don’t Disrespect Her
Don’t blame her period for anything and do not say anything that might hurt her. She might already be experiencing emotional turbulence due to her period, you don’t want to add to that.
12. Do Not Tell Her That You Have Been Getting This Every Month For So Many Years So You Should Be Accustomed To This
Don’t do this, because each time it may be a different experience for her. She knows that she is having periods for so many years, you don’t need to tell her that.
13. Do Not Tell Her To Take Medicine, And Be Normal Quickly
If that would have been the case, don’t you think she might have already done that?
14. Do Not Criticize Her
Do not comment on her dress. Don’t say that she is looking tired. Just try to talk about something positive.
15. Do Not Let Her Work Too Much
However, if she wants to do it anyway, then don’t start arguing about it either. Let her do it. Maybe she might be feeling better by distracting herself through the work.
16. If She Is Out Of Her Period Supplies, Do Not Deny To Bring Sanitary Pads/Tampons/Cups Whatever She Uses
Don’t be ashamed to bring these for her.
17. Don’t Touch Her Stomach (Unless She Asks You To Put A Hot Water Bag Or Your Warm Hands On It)
Touching her stomach all of a sudden without asking her during her period might upset her, as she may be having cramps or serious discomfort in her stomach.
18. Gently Remind Her To Change Her Tampons Or Cups, If She Seems To Be Forgetting That Due To Discomfort
Using them for more than the recommended period can cause Toxic Shock Syndrome (TSS).
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