Try this. When you find a woman who loves you and excites you and whom you love, be honest with her. About everything. If she catches you lying, you may never regain her trust and she’ll be a suspicious bitch. Don’t lie. Don’t go out on dates and make out with other women when you tell her you love you. Then you can be happy sharing your life whether the two of you marry or not. Best of luck. And for God’s sake, be with someone you’re sexually compatible with. Sexual frustration is misery.