7 Reasons why you shouldn’t try to get back with your ex.

If you’ve ever been in a long term relationship that has ended, then you probably know what it feels like to still have feelings for that person. You may have even gone as far as to attempt to rekindle a romance with your ex only to have found that the things which ultimately led to the demise of your relationship: lack of healthy communication, resentment towards past behaviors, and basically not being able to get along well, have not been resolved. Sadly they likely never will be.

People break up for a myriad of reasons, chiefly among those, is that one or both parties involved in said relationship, have decided, either mutually or induvidually, that they simply don’t like the other person anymore. Okay, I’m oversimplifying a bit but isn’t that what it really boils down to? Which leads me to my list of why getting back with the ex probably isn’t the most sound of ideas.

  1. You already know what this person is like. If the decision to breakup was mutual you both probably made the right choice. It wasn’t working. Have you given any serious thought as to why you wish to reinsert yourself into the life of a person who annoys the crap out of you? If you were the one who got broken up with, why waste your time and energy trying to prove to someone who clearly no longer likes you, that if given another shot at it, they might indeed begin liking you again? C’mon, where is your self-esteem?
  2. There’s a plethora of beautiful, interesting and single people in the world to date and do things with that you actually enjoy doing. Some of them you might fall in love with and others you won’t, but why deny yourself the pleasure of embarking on such a journey simply because you’ve allowed yourself to remain stuck in some idealized and fantastic version of a past relationship in which you were far from happy?
  3. Being alone isn’t as bad as folks say it is, It’s actually very freeing. It’s a great time to gain some more insight into who you are; to enjoy your own company;to laugh at yourself; to work on unfinished projects. In a nutshell, to do you, so to speak, without having to answer to anyone but yourself and your higher power, or lack thereof.
  4. Why jump right into another relationship, even if it’s with the same person, without giving yourself time to heal first? You deserve that much. Don’t you?
  5. You’re not getting any younger and gravity has an effect on all beings. Do you really want to become old arguing with the same damn person over moot nonsense? I know I don’t but to each his/her own.
  6. They are probably with someone else now. Spare yourself the dejection of having been told that by said ex and move on with your life. The old adage: There are other fish in the sea is quite true, New York City is an ocean in and of itself and the waters are filled with them, although a good many might be insane.
  7. Lastly, if you really do love the person and are willing to go to any length in order to save the last vestiges of what was once a beautiful relationship, then, by all means, do what you must. But is it worth it?