CULTURES THAT DESTROY WOMEN

If months ago I misjudged and said that girls of my city should behave normally according to norms that are obviously and significantly established with total masculinity, I myself don’t know what normality is. I think women need to start yelling and shouting, extracting themselves from within, and releasing the energy of revolt which means suffering for a lot of years. How can you possibly wait for the emancipation process if you still manage to wake up every morning and limit the space this gender uses to express themselves. Why should we create an environment where women should be dressed just in an official way, I mean, who created this “culture”. Why is it becoming a “culture”?.

Days ago I was reading an article on how families should care about raising kids and how someone should not be a rapist. I actually didn’t think about rapists, I was thinking about how women all over the world are being raped in this “rape-culture.” As a result, this act of humiliation has managed to capture the peak of being identified as culture, and this is happening to become an alarming situation. This time, I will write about women, about “cultures” and “traditions” that are mystically being spread all over the planet. Rape is not a culture; it has never been. It has been created by men. As a result, my feminism has just begun here. Even when men are raped, this happens by their counterparts. This vicious circle is created by men, whom in an urgent way are starting a culture which not surprisingly finds respect. Thus, there is one more culture to be ranged among sex culture, religious culture, dress culture, culture at work or at speaking and behaving. Raping should never be listed as a behavior, but it`s becoming such one. We, men, are contributing to it.

Back to Kosovo, my ghetto country that still has women who travel, at least they get visas. They also get raped, but that’s not highlighted on the news. Women of my country need to fight for their rights, they should leave the so called “comfort zone”, they should consider that they don’t need quotas to be equated with a patriarchal society that prevails not only in my country. To me, quotas are just a “tradition” which rather than supporting women, from my own perspective, are just a self-victimization. Quotas brought self-proud women in the Parliament, but those are not the typical successful women of one country. One who still talks about how many faculties and conference she has been in and does nothing in return, is the typical situation when women just use quotas to become something and someone useless, and not an important mechanism.

If months ago I misjudged and said that girls of my city should behave normally according to norms that are obviously and significantly established with total masculinity, I myself don’t know what normality is. I think women need to start yelling and shouting, extracting themselves from within, and releasing the energy of revolt which means suffering for a lot of years. How can you possibly wait for the emancipation process if you still manage to wake up every morning and limit the space this gender uses to express themselves. Why should we create an environment where women should be dressed just in an official way, I mean, who created this “culture”. Why is it becoming a “culture”?.

Kosovo’s women face significant gender-based violence and little respect for a victim’s right to confidentiality. We had a war 15 years ago, and still women cannot go on the record and tell about what really happened to them. It’s a shame, they say, it’s a dishonor to the whole family!!. I personally, as a man, need to rely on Kosovo`s perspective. Women here have a “tradition” of giving their property to older brothers, because there is no other way of respecting old, withered and sterile mentality. A tradition that is not updated for hundreds of years, moreover based on a Kanun practiced in a small percentage in Kosovo`s territory, which later on became a tradition. A Kanun that recognizes no childishness, no gender equality and women`s exposure from an unfazed and self-determined masculine style. I am sorry to say, but this is a culture and thus needs to be deposed.

Feminism is not just about women, it`s not just “Exotic becomes Erotic”. it’s about opposing a patriarchal society that is developed to the fullest. Kosovo is just one of them, with women being oppressed, neglected and discriminated.

( http://arberselmani.wordpress.com/2013/11/10/cultures-that-destroy-women/ )