Ari
Ari
Sep 2, 2018 · 1 min read

Hi Dave,

Although I find your response incredibly aggressive and rude, I’d like to respond, because I feel you’re completely missing the point.

I wrote this as an account of my personal experience with men who try to convince me not to use protection and how that affects me during and after sex.

I’m discussing something nuanced and deeply personal, so I find your response really mean & hateful. Several women have reached out to me about how they feel the same way that I do.

I was pointing out how I, along with other women, can tend to sacrifice our well being or feelings of safety to satisfy a man. And that men will often fight me on my boundaries so that they can get off the way they want to.

And when I say, “Men don’t have to do shit when it comes to contraceptive,” it’s the truth! I’m loading my body up with hormones and trying different methods, and the men I sleep with don’t have to go through that. That’s just a fact.

Please take your misdirected anger elsewhere.

    Ari

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