“I am not good enough”, …… really?
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. ~Steve Jobs
Deep down most of us have these feelings: that we are just not good enough, that we don’t deserve things, that we should work harder, that we are losers.
Actually, the outside world (parents, teachers, bosses, spouses etc.) has imposed this feeling on us (that we are not good enough).
The advertising industry makes it even worse by it’s inadequacy approach: “Inadequacy stories encourage immature emotions like greed, vanity, and insecurity by telling us that we are somehow incomplete. These stories then offer to remove the discomfort of those emotions with a simple purchase or association with a brand”
To influence us to do what they want us to do.
How does that work?
Well as we are insecure and have low self-esteem (that is what they want us to feel), we are continuously looking for their approval in the hope they they will say that we are okay.
If they give us positive feedback, then we are so happy that -the next time — we will even work harder to gain that same approval.
If they give us negative feedback — that happens 9 out of 10 cases — we will even try much harder to gain their approval in the future.
In short, this fear of rejection is making us into a slave, a tool in the hands of others.
How to get out of this loop?
You have to replace this limiting belief that you are not good enough, by a total acceptance of who you are right now.
You ARE good enough, now and in the future and you always have been. Don’t listen to the outside world; listen to your heart. Then you will know that you are unique and that you always did your best.
Then there is no fear, as love will be the main driver of your life and who you are.
The choice is yours: are you a marionette in someone else’s game or are you a leader of your own life?