Ending an arrangement
It’s going to happen at some point, and it’s never fun. Ending any relationship is always tough, but there are some ways to make it as painless as possible for your sugar baby.
When you see the end coming
An arrangement could end for a multitude of reasons — the chemistry is off, you’ve found another SB that you want to focus on, work has picked up and you simply don’t have the time you thought you might. If you know things will be winding down, make a plan to end things softly — there’s no rush.
How to end things
No one likes to be dismissed electronically. If you’re in a long-distance arrangement, the phone may be your only option, but if not, try to say good-bye in person. Be direct, but realize you are rejecting another human being, and it will hurt, regardless of how together she is. Don’t use cliché phrases like “It’s not you, it’s me” but do offer some explanation.
Be gentle, but firm
Many SBs are young and haven’t lived through the myriad of experiences you have. Emotions can run high in the gentler sex, and there may well be tears, and pleas, and promises. If you’ve made up your mind, don’t be swayed. Don’t offer a last rendezvous, or a conciliatory dinner. It will only provide hope and draw out the end of your arrangement. Remember, this arrangement was created on the premise of honesty, stick to it.
If you’re the one to get released
Any of the reasons you might have to end an arrangement could arise for your SB. While you’re unlikely to well up, it still won’t feel great and you might feel the primal instinct to hurt her right back. Save the cruel words and cold shoulder — this was always meant to be a mutual respectful relationship, so ease out gracefully.
Word travels
Remember, sugar sisters can be a tight group, and a bad parting can spread through the sugar bowl like wildfire. Whether you’re doing the breaking-up or are the receiver, wish her well, end with tact and diplomacy, and keep the details to yourself. With any luck, she’ll do the same and you can both continue to enjoy the sugar lifestyle in the future.
