Why it’s better to be interested instead of interesting?

ARSAL YASIN
Jul 28, 2017 · 3 min read

Life is an Echo. What you send out, comes back. What you sow, you reap. What you give, you get. What you see in others, exists in you. Because being interested is a two way process. “When you take interest in someone, there arises a natural appeal in himself to turn to you”, as I learned it from ‘How to Win friends and Influence people’ a book by Dale Carnegie. So, give what you want to get. Be a reflection of what you’d like to see in others.

I think people’s attitude is based on how you treat them. As someone said;

“Kindness generates kindness and Love begets love”.

“Puppy, Tippy — A dog makes his living by giving you nothing but love”, one of my favorite narratives from that book. If you start giving true devotion to someone by listening to him, helping him or showing him deep concerns about himself, he’ll surely spend his plenty of time with you. Because you have ushered him the way that leads to his heart. Is there any doubt that he’ll remember you in any of his special event? Certainly not. I would like to share one of my experiences with you to depict how it actually happens.

“Oh Sorry! I can’t give you my Project Report”, his text turned me down. A mechanical engineer refused to give his report to an electrical engineer, more precisely, a guy was not willing to share his things with his bestie. “ How Hassan can do that?”, I wondered. I said ‘okay’ to myself, but there was an odd feeling. I was unable to express that, but it started irritating me. A long chain of queries was there before me.

“How?, What?, Did he really say that?”, everything was revolving in my mind and annoying me every moment. At last I began to think of ‘Why?’. Now I was rewinding all the memories and analyzing them.

What I came to know was that I hadn’t been talking to him since past four months, because I was busy in my test preparation for PIEAS. “I didn’t feel that, but it could be serious for him”, I reflected, “and definitely that was the reason of so harsh attitude”.

I called him and programmed to meet at McDonald this evening. When he arrived I smiled and welcomed him. This contagious smile made him smile too. Then, I asked him about his routine, his family, and exams. He briefed me all, told me about his FYP, and spent a quality time there. He was looking contented now.I did apologize him for my mistake and told him about my selection in the test of PIEAS. He was more than happy to listen that. Because my interest in him was appealing him to take interest in me. However, after a long gupshup we said Allah Hafiz to each other and moved to our homes.

Undoubtedly, these 24 hours, spent on others without any reason filled me with pleasure. Listening to other’s problems, try to understand them and try to give them a reason to smile was a best feeling ever. So to me;

If you are going to be interested in others you will become interesting for others.

As we make friends for life in this way…

ARSAL YASIN

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Electrical Engineer … 🔌… ‘mm Working on myself, for myself, by myself… (Excercise)😋💪 Addicted to COC

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