All that you are is all that I’ll ever need

The life is like a journey where you have to move on a very long road.

The road is full of traps, deceptions, enemies, fences and many hurdles to face. Longer you go, more the hurdles you face. Alternatively, you may choose another road, which looks like a shortcut towards destination but ends only with disaster and regret. If you go on the straight road facing the problems by yourself, the road will become the longest for you and ideal to complete. So whether we stop moving on this road? Whether is there any facility that we can have? What is that thing that will make this road smooth? Well that thing is difficult to find and realize but once you have that, you will never be de track, disappoint or wait longer for the journey to be complete. That thing is called friendship. A Turkish saying is:

“A Good Companion shortens the Longest Road”

Yes, a real friend is like a jet who will take you above all the hurdles and let you complete this journey successfully. A friend is like a sword in war. It is a feeling that tends you to live. It is a pen in your exam. It is shield against the enemies.

A real friend is the most difficult and at the same time most easy thing to achieve. I have go through some writings of Dale Carnegie from book “How to Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. He have presented many examples to find out a real companion and companions. The most critical thing of which is to give importance to others. A magician do not who much tricks but he is famous magician because he is affectionate and caring to people. A president who always take care of his house cleaner. A person got order and a good customer by showing affection to his workers. He mentioned a very beautiful thing:

“If we want someone friend, we have to do things for other people, things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness”

I have a friend who always talk about himself. What he was doing throughout the week and yesterday. What are his plans for tomorrow? He never tried to listen about someone else’s life. Such person cannot make a real friend. If you always talk about yourself then how can you know about your friend? How will you manage to find out what is going on in your friend’s life. What are his plans for future? These are the things, which we have to consider if we really want to have a good companion. As Dale writes in his book:

“We are interested in other when they are interested in us”

I have asked some questions to class fellows, friends and family about theirselvers, their life and future. I find out that the people who were stranger to me and was just my class fellows start caring about me. They started to offer me food, ask about my health and most importantly get sincere and curious about my life. This is as if we want importance, we have to give importance first. I amazed by hearing the plans of my fellows. Some of them were very different and I will never got a chance to know such things in life.

My family members as my uncle told about his experiences in life and how he utilize them to be successful. He showed the passion of his work by explaining his involvements. Apart from all the new experiences and stunning things, I have made many good friends who are interested in me, myself. They want to know about my issues and want to resolve them impassioned. They are my companions towards the journey of life.

    Muhammad Arslan Saeed

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