5 ways to kick FEAR out
“Mommy, I’m scared of the monster under the bed” said the little girl, refusing to let go off her mom. “Honey, there’s no such thing as a monster. Have a good night’s sleep, you’ve got school tomorrow”, Rachael put her little girl to bed and worried about how she was going to pay the next bill.
“Honey, we really need to curb on the expenses or we will have to declare bankruptcy” exhumed the girl’s mom to the dad. “Naah, it’ll all be fine. Rachael, you tend to overthink a lot these days. I haven’t made an impulse purchase after the iPhone 7. So, all under control” Andres sounded confident of seeing this through.
The thought, losing out money on the Snapchat IPO, kept him awake. Rachael spends most of her time sending snaps to her girlfriends, and the teenager next door is hooked on to the dog filter, maybe this bet could pay off. Andres justified the $100,000 investment he made in the company. But then he realized, Mark could be his demon and can make the IPO crash. This thought wouldn’t fade away! Even Johnnie Walker couldn’t help Andres that night.
Indeed, the monster under the girl’s bed wouldn’t let anyone in the family sleep.
Okay, before you jump to conclusions, this is a fictional story.
You have power over your mind — not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. Marcus Aurelius.
One must train the mind from falling into the fear trap. Read on to the ways to kick Fear out of your system.
5 ways to kick FEAR out
- Address the White Elephant in the room
We tend to dodge the fact that we worry, and look at it as an integral part of our daily routine. Acceptance of the idea, that one thought is bothering you and taking away your inner peace, will liberate you. The next time you worry, instead of telling yourself it’s nothing, take a step back and say yes there is a situation. The whole inner dialogue changes now. From focusing on diverting the ‘worry-thought’ you embrace it. And solutions emerge from here.
- Be present in the Now
Past gifts you worry and the future blesses you with anxiety. Both are different names of Fear. Limiting yourself to the present moment gives you immense clarity.Whenever you find yourself drifting off, center yourself by focusing on your breath. This stops you from daydreaming or worrying and gets you back in the present. Your mental strength isn’t sapped by worry or anxiety. The new found clarity could be used to look at the solutions. Making this a habit, you could really transform yourself.
- Positive Focus
You get what you focus on. Focus on worry, you have more of them.
Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light. Optimism is one characteristic trait every successful personality has. You must have it in your armor to take on fear.
When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive — to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love — Marcus Aurelius. One of the ways to raise your personal vibrations, is to be grateful for the things you have. Making a habit of thanking every thing in your life, lifts your consciousness. You break the old thought pattern of complaining about what you don’t have, and replace it with gratitude.
- Prepare for the worst
Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together,but do so with all your heart — Marcus Aurelius. We always tend to have the best image of the situation in our minds. But when things go a little out of track, we panic and that trigger is enough for us to get anxious about the result. When you chalk out the worst case scenario for a particular event, and you start working towards the best possible scenario, any minor hiccup that happens wouldn’t faze you.
To know more about the stoic mindset, read Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, possibly the best philosopher who walked on the face of earth.