Is There Really True Love in Paradise?
ABC’s spinoff of The Bachelor, The Bachelor in Paradise, is a show dooming women and men of love. In a 2 hour long episode, the show reveals the relationships between single bachelors and bachelorette looking for love in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. Throughout each week, select couples go on dates while everyone in the house gets to know each other. People who couple up will spend time together while the others wait for new people to come, in hopes of finding love with them. At the end of each week, one gender picks another to have their rose and whoever does not receive a rose will be sent home and their trip in paradise will be over. I watched the season finale, so the couples left had to decide whether they wanted to end their relationship or continue with it and get engaged. Bachelor in Paradise is suppose to prove that true love is out that and everyone can have it, but let’s face it, there are many differences in the people on the show versus most of the viewers. The women on the show are portrayed as beautiful, skinny, high class women, while the men are handsome, strongly built, and have yearly incomes quadrupled of what the average person makes. However, the show does a good job showing dependant women going after what they want.
In the season finale, three of the four couples ended up getting engaged, but the real question is, how many of them will still be together in three months? After spending just a couple weeks getting to know eachother, these couples think they have found love and are ready to take their relationship to the next level. The one couple who decided to call it quits, actually had the biggest effect on me as a viewer. While Jen was going into the rose ceremony thinking she could get engaged, Nick went in with doubts. As Nick told her he didn’t have the connection he wanted, Jen stayed there as calm and collective as could be. Especially because just a minute before she professed her love for him. While every women and I were screaming at our tv for Jen to slap Nick for leading her on, she just said she understood and waited until she was out of sight to shed a couple cheers. One thing I took away from that was that Jen didn’t need a guy to be happy. Once she heard how nick felt, she was thankful he told her so she didn’t continue on with a relationship that would be doomed for failure. Rather than being upset with Nick, Jen embraced their break up and looked at it as a positive thing. I think a lot of women watching can take something positive away from Jen’s reaction. She’s strong and showed us that women don’t need a man to be happy, also that just because you haven’t found love yet, it doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
I do not believe that this piece of media is truly beneficial for society. While the people on the show were once “ordinary people” I do not think they accurately represent what society is. Not everyone is making millions of dollars and has great looks and a fantastic body. I’m not saying there aren’t people in society like that, because there are, but the majority of people watching are not and it’s putting a false representation on what true love is. I believe that these couples were forced to like eachother. Had there been 100 more people in the house I think I would have been more convinced but at the end, 3 couples found love out of a group of 10 people. While many of the episodes do show the hardships of love, this one made it seem as if finding love is easy and no obstacles are overcome. Except, I do think it is easier to find love in a place where you don’t have to work or deal with every day problems. However, 99% of viewers will not have that scenario to fall in love, only making this show less convincing. Overall, this show is sending a negative message about love.