It is clear you cannot see the irony in the “symbolism” of your refresh. Frankly, I am offended that you think your female icon is representative of females as a whole. What type of body image are you saying women should have? How accurate are those shoulders? Are those the average woman’s size shoulders? Are you saying all women have a hairstyle like that? I think you should be utilizing a little more empirical data and less of your gut feeling and own preconceived ideas of what a woman is. And the man… why does he have hipster hair? And what in the hell is going on with his fat neck? It’s nearly as wide as his face. I don’t think outside of football players and bodybuilders do men have necks with such gratuitous girth. Is this implying men are stalkers? I don’t know what you’re trying to say here. This is rife with symbolism.
Post the original source file for the friends glyph. I would put money on it that the offending chip in the female shoulder was someone not completing the female shoulder because it wouldn’t be seen, because it was tucked behind the oppressive male shoulder, or they were just lazy and half-assed the female shoulder. Your example at the top is cherry picked. If there’s anything that should offend you it should be the shoddy work.
My hope is that another assertive, petty, passive-aggressive, social justice warrior designer such as yourself will take heed to the mantra of doing and not complaining, and “refresh” the current icon with one that’s entirely gender neutral and equal in all ways possible, as if Plato himself designed it. Or, perhaps, get rid of the size differences and put them horizontally if it’s such an issue.