Stop Wrestling Baby Elephants
The question — “What are you going to create with your life?” — has been playing knock; knock games on the door to my future and it’s not going to leave me alone until I open it with a definitive answer.
Panic mode has ensued. I’m not entirely sure what that answer is yet, and I feel like it’s only a matter of time before that door is broken down and the truth becomes exposed — I don’t know what I’m going to do.
It’s a common phrase said in passing when you’re joking with your friends about the Leaning Tower of Pisa that is your young adult life. Laughs are had, but there isn’t much consideration given to the fact that you really feel unstable. Those light-hearted jokes don’t seem so light-hearted anymore when your internal self is screaming, “WHAT THE FUCK SHOULD I DO?”
The floodgates are open and an army of emotions are barreling toward you. It hits you faster than you thought and you’re soon balancing what feels like the weight of a baby elephant on your shoulders. Pressure is building, and as much as you try to resist its force you already know that you have allowed yourself to accept defeat.
The pressure to be a notable somebody with an extensive track record of accomplishments has won us all over. We’re living in a culture that fosters the hustler mentality — a subliminal desire to constantly be and do more. Are we training our minds to believe that we’ll never be good enough?
I don’t feel good enough…. not yet anyways.
I have a company to build, a book to write, and a collection of designer shoes waiting to come home to me.
The problem is that I feel like I need to accomplish all of these things within an unrealistic timeframe. Impatience plays a factor but the key influencer always comes back to pressure. I always seem to find myself wrestling with that baby elephant because I’m afraid that if I don’t figure out what to do soon then I will inevitably end up back where I started: working retail in a shitty shopping mall at a store that sells clothes to boring work moms.
This is where the saying “you are your own worst enemy” plays a lead role. The truth is that the only reason that pressure exists is because you have created it for yourself. There isn’t a crowd of people rallying for your defeat, there isn’t a time frame for success and there sure is hell isn’t a baby elephant taking a joy ride on your shoulders.
You might still think that you aren’t good enough and that’s okay. I have admitted to it myself. I’m all for embracing the hustler mentality to get shit done and make things happen but don’t get caught up in the mindset that if success doesn’t come fast then it’s not going to come at all.
Now is the time to open that door to your future. Let it be known that you might not know what to do, but you will figure it out. In the meantime, be prepared for the next question, and don’t feel pressure to answer it the first time it presents itself.