Honeymoon Phase

Ashlee Rae
Aug 27, 2017 · 3 min read

Love is in the air and you just got into a brand new relationship. You can’t imagine life without this amazing person in your life. How did you ever live without their puns, dysfunctional family, or watching them enjoy their favorite hobby?

Nothing about this person annoys you and you swear it never will. You can not understand how their last relationship didn’t work out. Surely a person this great needs to be held tight and never let go.

Truth is, no one is perfect.

“That honeymoon phase is so much fun in real life, when you meet and discover somebody new and fall in love and chase them. The pursuit. And that climactic final moment of ultimate togetherness.” -Lucas Neff

New Stationary:

You know, that feeling you get when you open a brand new notebook or a set of ballpoint pens. In that moment, it’s exciting because it’s brand new. But really, no matter how cool those pens are, eventually they will end up in the bottom of your drawer like the rest of them. Unfortunately, this can happen with new relationships. Sure they seem cute and smell really nice when they go in for a hug but if there’s no substance, it will end real quick. Make sure you use this new time to sit down with your new love interest to really get to know them. After all, this is what this time is for and you won’t be hurt in the long run if you decide this person isn’t for you.

Bad Habits:

We all have them and no matter how great the person is, the habit itself can drive a person crazy. Just because you love everything about your partner now, does not mean you will adore how they eat with their mouth open in the future. Just understand that while these things might drive you insane, we all have something about us that can send someone up a wall. Don’t worry though, you might just continue to love your partners tendency to curl their hair with their finger as the years progress. After all, some quirks aren’t all that bad.

Walking on Eggshells:

I say this because it tends to happen a lot in the first stages of a relationship. You can’t get enough of your new partner so what better way to keep them than to agree with them on everything, right? Wrong. Of course, in order to not offend your new boyfriend/girlfriend, you tend to want to agree with the things they believe in/like in order to not cause any tension. While it is a good idea to be open to other people’s opinions, it is an even better idea to be upfront with your partner (and yourself) to avoid future conflict.

The Forbidden “L”:

All I have to do is say one letter and you know instantly what I’m talking about. Yes, the dreaded 4 letter word. Believe it or not, there are many cases in which new couples are so happy with their romance that they sling shot this word like it’s nothing. If you’ve been dating for a few months, it’s probably best to stay away from saying this. While you may be planning your future with this person now, realistically anything can happen, especially during this stage. To save expectations and potential heartbreak, refrain from this before you truly feel it in your heart.

Planning:

Your best friend is getting married in a few months and you finally have a boyfriend to take as your date. Talking about this event in a few months advanced isn’t the biggest deal in the world. but just keep in mind that with the relationship so new, you might find that you have to make other plans in the future.

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