Hey Amber — I’m not sure where you’re seeing the self-loathing? That’s neither my experience (far from it) nor my intended projection/extrapolation. The Never Been Kissed example was merely a silly way to illustrate how heavily certain endorsements are weighted when it comes to reputation: the idea that “all it takes is for one person to think you’re cool.” No one is painted as a “Josie Grossy” character here.
I do try to be honest about my own insecurities and this is obviously an extremely subjective essay. Totally fine that it didn’t resonate with you!