Why do we pick up the wrong person?

It’s a common question around the world, you will be surprised how many people around the world asked the same question.

But to answer this question, we need to mention some points.

• Point one, why are you dating, marry, or being in a relationship, you have to be clear and honest with yourself while you are answering this question.
  you will think about it well, are you dating because you would rather not feel lonely? Are you dating because your family, and your friends asking you to be in a relationship, are you dating because you want to share your life with someone, however your answer will be, you will understand yourself better after you answer this question?
• Point two, what’s your standards, what are you searching for, some people care about different standards than yours, to know well your standards, will make you choose the right person to spend your life with, focus on what you are really care about, write a paper about your standards, start with the most important standards and then complete with the lower standards which, if it doesn’t exist, it wouldn’t make any side effects in your relationship, as you know we are all humans, so you wouldn’t be able to find someone who’s actually perfect, but you will find someone suits your important standards.
• Point three, many people ignore this important point, what I will give to my partner as I will take from him or her, to make a healthy relationship with someone you will need to give as much as you take, some people are romantic kind which means they care about feelings more than any other things, in that case you will have to give them, love, care, attention, time, loyalty, many things based on feelings, on the other side, some people care about money, secure life, career, opportunities, those kind need different needs, so if you are dating one of them you will need to focus on giving them what they actually need, as you will take from them also what you need, don’t treat all people using the same ways, they aren’t the same, every one has his different needs, when you are understanding their needs as much as you are understanding your needs, you will have the healthy relationship.

Back to answer the question up here, why do we pick up the wrong person?

You didn’t, you just chose someone who’s not matching with you well, as you wasn’t know then your real needs, and you didn’t know what you will give in this relationship as much as you need to take, so it’s clearly you didn’t pick up the wrong person, no one is a wrong person, you just chose a puzzle piece which does not suit you well.
We are like puzzle pieces, some are matching with us, and some aren’t, but we are not the wrong person to them, or they are the wrong person to us, we just don’t match.