Bad moments do not make you a bad mom.

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Dear Me,

You are enough. I know you don’t believe me, so let’s examine the evidence.

You choose to be brave

You were never taught resilience or emotional regulation. The example you were set by your parents was to give up if things got difficult and to blame others for your problems. You regularly get impulses to do this. Yet you chose to be brave.

You put yourself in scary situations so you can make your little girl proud. You don’t give up when things get difficult, so she can see success comes from experiencing failure. Even on your bad days, you force yourself to…

Even if you mean no harm, this question can be deeply hurtful.

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“When are you going to have another one?”

It’s very socially acceptable to ask this question. Expected even. In fact, I used to ask people this before I became a mother. I know from experience this question is perfectly innocent and asked out of curiosity. But the question itself isn’t what makes me uncomfortable. It’s the follow-up statements when I say I’m not sure I want another child.

“She needs a sibling.”

“Don’t you think it’s time for another one? Maybe this time you will have a boy.”

“You don’t want them to have too much of an age gap.”

Their relationship is toxic and we should not aspire to be like them.

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Eighty-two million households watched Bridgerton in its first twenty-eight days on Netflix. I was one of them. I binged the series in two days, unable to switch it off. The diverse cast, the beautiful costumes, and the steamy romance are what attracted me to the series. The UK is currently in lockdown, and now more than ever people need an escape from the monotony of their lives. Bridgerton provided that escape for many, and whilst I enjoyed it, I left the series feeling uncomfortable.

The romance between Daphne and Simon is captivating, even addictive. It’s nice to see two people…

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February is the month of Valentine’s Day. But are you showing love to yourself?

Parents struggle to be kind to themselves. And it’s no wonder, with statistics showing that 90% of moms and 80% of dads feel judged for their parenting.

If this sounds like you, then you may want to enter our February writing prompt which challenges you to write a love letter to your parenting self. You can find out more here.

The Winner of January’s Writing Prompt

Last month we challenged you to write about what changes you planned on bringing to 2021 in terms of your parenting.

The winning entry is Challenging Life Lessons 2020 Taught Me About Being A Mother by Keri Anne Johnson.


Write a love letter to your parenting self.

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Parents struggle to be kind to themselves. And it’s no wonder, with statistics showing that 90% of moms and 80% of dads feel judged for their parenting.

This month’s prompt challenges you to write a love letter to your parenting self. It’s time to focus on what you are doing, rather than what you’re not doing. Give yourself some credit for raising kids during a pandemic. Or maybe your children are grown up and you would like to write a love letter to your past parenting self at a time when you were struggling. …

It’s not just pretty women who are at risk. ALL women are at risk.

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“Who would want to rape you?”

I will never forget the day these words were said to me. I was thirteen-years-old and had been followed by a man in a car during part of my journey to school. I was taking a short cut through a quiet neighborhood to avoid bumping into any of my bullies. I had taken this shortcut many times and nothing had happened so I thought it was safe. I was walking near plenty of houses. It wasn’t a secluded area. …

Why we must not judge a child abuse survivor for the way they speak about their abuser.

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I don’t love my mom.

I can already hear the choruses of people asking “surely you still love her just a little bit?” But no. I don’t love her. And I don’t feel bad about that because she didn’t love me first.

It wasn’t until I heard of another estranged child say “they didn’t love me first” that I realised my feelings we valid. He’s right. Our parents started this. We spent our entire childhood loving them in the hope they would love us back. Often, people spend their entire adulthood trying to win their parent’s affection too. And it’s…

I should be happy during these moments. Instead, I relive experiences from my own abusive childhood.

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My daughter, Immy, is a very active little girl. She also lacks spatial awareness and is very clumsy. As you can imagine, she is forever falling over. Most of the time she gets up and carries on as if nothing has happened. She is a very busy toddler after all and urgently needs to play with her toys or run around the room at full speed. But sometimes she genuinely hurts herself and needs comfort.

Today she fell off the sofa. It happened so quickly that I couldn’t catch her in time. She bumped her head and she started to…

We can’t stop people from criticising us. But we can minimise its impact on our mental health.

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“My mother never complained.”

“This is what you signed up for. No one said it was easy.”

“Just get on with it.”

“Why are you still breatsfeeding?”

“You are too soft on your kids. They need more discipline.”

“I would never do that with my children.”

If you’re a mother, you have most likely heard the above statements or variations of them. It’s even more likely that you have felt these things being implied in people’s attitudes towards you.

If you have ever felt judged for the way you parent, you are not alone.

Motherhood is one of the roles…

What changes will you make this year?

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Happy New Year!

In the spirit of new year’s resolutions, this prompt asks you to reflect on what you have learned over the last year and what changes you want to bring into 2021.

Maybe the pandemic has taught you the importance of spending time with your family. Maybe you have learned about the importance of setting boundaries and want to start being more assertive with your family in 2021. Or maybe parenting has been challenging and you want to bring what you have learned into 2021 so you can be a healthier parent.

Make sure to emphasise what changes…

Laura Fox

I write to heal myself and others.

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