Motherhood takes a lot from a woman. But it doesn’t mean it has to be lost forever.

Of all the things I lost when becoming a mother, I didn’t expect to lose my sex drive. I was a first-time mum and had no idea of the difficulties that lay ahead. I struggled with antenatal depression and postnatal depression, which left little room in my mind to even think about being intimate with my husband.

According to statistics, a woman’s interest in sex returns around three months after they have given birth, but it’s normal if this takes longer. I struggled to find that last part reassuring. Almost two years after giving birth, I still struggle with intimacy…

I was a caring daughter to the very end. And to the very end, I still wasn’t good enough.

It was a quiet December morning when I saw my mom for the last time. I was happy and content in my little flat with my little family. I was newly married and newly a parent, not to my own child but to my younger sister, Lucy. It was a little strange becoming a parental figure to a teenager, but I was happy that we were all safe. I had escaped my abusive mother’s clutches first and prayed Lucy would see sense and follow suit. It took time but finally, the phone call came:

“Laura I need you to come…

Hello everyone,

This newsletter is a little more personal than previous ones. I have been struggling to run Family Matters and take care of my mental health at the same time. The publication hit 2k followers this month. We are a family-run publication and I did not expect such growth. Whilst I am so happy that people like our articles and want to write for us, I have been incredibly stressed trying to run the publication successfully and it has been affecting my mental health.

I work at a hospital and I am a mother. I am also studying part-time…

Bad moments do not make you a bad mom.

Dear Me,

You are enough. I know you don’t believe me, so let’s examine the evidence.

You choose to be brave

You were never taught resilience or emotional regulation. The example you were set by your parents was to give up if things got difficult and to blame others for your problems. You regularly get impulses to do this. Yet you chose to be brave.

You put yourself in scary situations so you can make your little girl proud. You don’t give up when things get difficult, so she can see success comes from experiencing failure. Even on your bad days, you force yourself to…

Even if you mean no harm, this question can be deeply hurtful.

“When are you going to have another one?”

It’s very socially acceptable to ask this question. Expected even. In fact, I used to ask people this before I became a mother. I know from experience this question is perfectly innocent and asked out of curiosity. But the question itself isn’t what makes me uncomfortable. It’s the follow-up statements when I say I’m not sure I want another child.

“She needs a sibling.”

“Don’t you think it’s time for another one? Maybe this time you will have a boy.”

“You don’t want them to have too much of an age gap.”

Their relationship is toxic and we should not aspire to be like them.

Eighty-two million households watched Bridgerton in its first twenty-eight days on Netflix. I was one of them. I binged the series in two days, unable to switch it off. The diverse cast, the beautiful costumes, and the steamy romance are what attracted me to the series. The UK is currently in lockdown, and now more than ever people need an escape from the monotony of their lives. Bridgerton provided that escape for many, and whilst I enjoyed it, I left the series feeling uncomfortable.

The romance between Daphne and Simon is captivating, even addictive. It’s nice to see two people…

February is the month of Valentine’s Day. But are you showing love to yourself?

Parents struggle to be kind to themselves. And it’s no wonder, with statistics showing that 90% of moms and 80% of dads feel judged for their parenting.

If this sounds like you, then you may want to enter our February writing prompt which challenges you to write a love letter to your parenting self. You can find out more here.

The Winner of January’s Writing Prompt

Last month we challenged you to write about what changes you planned on bringing to 2021 in terms of your parenting.

The winning entry is Challenging Life Lessons 2020 Taught Me About Being A Mother by Keri Anne Johnson.


Write a love letter to your parenting self.

Parents struggle to be kind to themselves. And it’s no wonder, with statistics showing that 90% of moms and 80% of dads feel judged for their parenting.

This month’s prompt challenges you to write a love letter to your parenting self. It’s time to focus on what you are doing, rather than what you’re not doing. Give yourself some credit for raising kids during a pandemic. Or maybe your children are grown up and you would like to write a love letter to your past parenting self at a time when you were struggling. …

It’s not just pretty women who are at risk. ALL women are at risk.

“Who would want to rape you?”

I will never forget the day these words were said to me. I was thirteen-years-old and had been followed by a man in a car during part of my journey to school. I was taking a short cut through a quiet neighborhood to avoid bumping into any of my bullies. I had taken this shortcut many times and nothing had happened so I thought it was safe. I was walking near plenty of houses. It wasn’t a secluded area. …

Why we must not judge a child abuse survivor for the way they speak about their abuser.

I don’t love my mom.

I can already hear the choruses of people asking “surely you still love her just a little bit?” But no. I don’t love her. And I don’t feel bad about that because she didn’t love me first.

It wasn’t until I heard of another estranged child say “they didn’t love me first” that I realised my feelings we valid. He’s right. Our parents started this. We spent our entire childhood loving them in the hope they would love us back. Often, people spend their entire adulthood trying to win their parent’s affection too. And it’s…

Laura Fox

I write to heal myself and others.

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