You won’t find Mr or Mrs Right on your doorstep, unless you’re marrying the postman!
I’ve been talking to people from different races, different heights (the humour of their profile outweighed 5’8") and people from different parts of the world. It also meant that I ended up swiping right on a potential serial killer…
I used to find the online way a little too impersonal. Firstly, it opens you up to predators and serial killers (exaggeration but really not because do you watch the news?) And I question, do you really get to connect with someone? Yeah you talk, you can find out the basics about what their hobbies are and where they work but unless you meet up pretty soon after matching, how much do you actually get to know a person over a screen?
In my pre-matchmaking life, I had tried out Tinder (it’s a shag app let’s be honest), Plenty of Fish (too many unserious candidates) and Happn (turned out to be very unsettling when you match with the same person you’ve walked past 5 times in a week). And then came along hinge… *cue heart eyes*
Okay that’s corny I know, but Hinge actually got me into the dating world! (I know I’m a matchmaker. It doesn’t make sense. We get it.)
The questions on each profile meant I was swiping right on a whole load of new people that I may have not considered before. I’ve been talking to people from different races, different heights (the humour of their profile outweighed 5’8") and people from different parts of the world. It also meant that I ended up swiping right on a potential serial killer…
Okay, slight exaggeration. He wasn’t a serial killer (I hope) but it was a little bit of a weird interaction.
Him: “Eating and napping are the best dates. Maybe not at the same time though. I’ve never gone crazy for a shark how does that look like when you go crazy for a shark?”
You know that scene in friends, when Monica thinks Chandler is into shark porn? This is where I thought this conversation was going.
Me: “Haha, eating and napping are great ways to spend a day. Sharks fascinate me! Not entirely sure what it looks like but probably me in front of the TV, super fascinated?”
Looking back, I’m starting to think maybe I encouraged the serial killerness…
Him: “You eat and nap away. When you wake up you can find me at the beach. Can you record a video of you watching sharks on TV? I have the feeling it would be a funny video”
So I may have overacted a little, but I’m not here to satisfy anyones weird kinks. Asking me to record myself in any way, let alone watching sharks, is definitely creepy in my books (if anyone asks you to send videos or pictures of yourself, block and delete them kids!)
Minus the serial killer, my dating experiences haven’t been all that bad! I’ve been on dates, I’ve talked to a variety of people (and weirdos alike) and most importantly I have had fun. I’ve really taken on dating as part of my social life, rather than view it as something that needs to be done to achieve an end goal. Turns out online dating isn’t that bad when you’re utilising it properly, and I’m pretty sure someone once said you have to kiss* a few frogs before you find your prince?
I found the best way to use any dating app, is to put the effort in and have fun! Take the time to fill out your profiles properly. The more information you include, the better snapshot you create about yourself. No one wants to swipe right on a potential catfish who has one picture and all they’ve included is their height (even if it is 6ft).
To some extent, being single is a choice so if you’re looking to change your relationship status, be active in doing things that will make a difference. You won’t find Mr or Mrs Right on your doorstep, unless you’re marrying the postman right?
*I don’t kiss on a first date. Or a second or third. Unless I really really like you. But even then, don’t risk it because there is a 30/70 chance I’ll kiss you back or have a totally awkward cringeworthy moment of horribleness that we both may never recover from.
Any thoughts or questions, let me know!