Our parents or grandparents taught us this principle, often in the middle of our requests for some grand thing.

“grandpa”. Photo by Treddy Chen on Unsplash

At the time, we probably didn’t hear it or felt it was a cop out or distraction technique to change the subject from the thing we begged for.

“Rings and jewels are not gifts, but apologies for gifts. The only gift is a portion of thyself.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

To say I didn’t understand his urging-that giving was somehow better than receiving -is an understatement.

If you’re like me, this puffy, patriarchal principle seemed something passed down from another time…

How #FOMO Gets The Best of Us

We try so hard to be “in” that once we arrive, we often forget to welcome others along the way.

People laughing inclusively around a table with the words “are you in or out?” above them.
People laughing inclusively around a table with the words “are you in or out?” above them.
Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

Recently, I thought how funny it was that, when it comes to a pool in the summer who can only let 50 people in at a time (no thanks, Coronavirus), if you want a line, you should start a line, keying into the FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) that plays so deeply in human nature.

In fact, an interesting thing I noticed is that when everyone was in line, people talked and joked with each other amiably — a sort…

Many people working together at a desk
Many people working together at a desk
Got a lot to do? Help yourself out by using multiple profiles in Google Chrome to keep your separate accounts, well, separate.

Google Chrome is a popular web browser. Beside the powerful extensions, speed and other benefits, Chrome is really the way to go for a simple, fast web browser on your computer.

If you are a freelancer or independent contractor, or even more importantly, a solopreneur or working a side-hustle, your time is, literally, money, and the most-precious asset you have.

Often, a lot of it gets “sucked up” in the mental problem of logging into this account or that, either your personal, your work, your side-gig or your client’s accounts.

How Multiple Profiles Helps

Setting up multiple user profiles in Chrome helps you avoid…

I’ve been looking all over for a way to just make a simple multidimensional array in Google App Script. The other answers all start with pulling data from sheets, but that’s not my case.

The solution is to make an array and declare a length, then loop through the array and set each value to an array of 2 or however many dimensions you want, then set each dimension value as you would.

Sample Code: To setup an array of campusNames with campusName[0][0] = the name of the campus and campusName[0][1] = the school’s URL


var campusNames = new Array(13);

for(i=0; i<campusNames.length; i++)
campusNames[i] = new Array(2);

campusNames[0][0] = “Berkeley”;
campusNames[0][1] = “https://www.berkeley.edu/”;


“That’s the thing about truths”, he said.

“They’re still true — no matter if you remember or forget, care about them or not. Hear them or actively fight against them.”

(See video) As a quick resume tip, I want to explain three reasons why candidates should take their full address OFF your resume in 2020 and beyond.


Your digital footprint is more important these days than ever. Managing it starts with you taking control or the things you can. Keeping your street address off public or semi private databases is a crucial part of this.


I’d like to think that most people would never tell a stranger their home address or other personally identifying details about their life. …

white ceramic mug on white table beside black eyeglasses
white ceramic mug on white table beside black eyeglasses
Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

Sure, it’s cold and flu season which is to be expected that some would get sick, but this one really has me down and while it’s both tested my limits, its also helped me see some things a little differently as I close out 2019.

The ugly back story is that while people around me were getting sick over the last 6–8 weeks, I have somehow floated above the proverbial germ pool and avoided any adverse ailments, until a week ago today when I felt a tickle as I swallowed. I was sure it was just a dry mouth. …

This five point scale helps you know if you have a hire, a no-hire, or (critically) if you need to go back for more.

Photo by Micaela Parente on Unsplash

There are many ways to rate candidates in your interview process. However, as part of a standardized interview feedback framework, I find the five point scale to work the best in helping you understand what to do with your candidates.

Count them as stars, checkboxes, points or whatever you like. The point is, I strongly encourage FIVE options for reviewers to rate a candidate. More than this leads to ambiguity. …

I think I’m like the artisan bread-maker of recruiting. If recruiting had a farmer’s market, that’s the only place I would sell my wares.

Busy Craftsman — Photo by Clark Young on Unsplash
Busy Craftsman — Photo by Clark Young on Unsplash
Photo by Clark Young on Unsplash

I just sent an email to an old colleague. You know the kind:

Hey <name>, how are you? I just became aware of a xyz consultant which just hit the market and I wondered if you might be interested…

Writing words like that gave me a visceral reaction. Ug! Why? This just feels wrong. …

Yeah, crazy, right? But I feel impelled to do this. Now.

I need your help. Please consider reading and subscribing/sharing this.

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As a professional recruiter, my job is to help people get jobs. But, as Jason Alba will tell you, if that recruiter doesn’t have a job for you, they can’t magically make one appear.

For 15 years, I have been politely turning people away when they are not selected for a job. It feels like a slow death — always telling people we’re “not considering your application any longer.”

I think I can do more. But I cannot do…

Robert Merrill

Helps you hire smarter, faster, and better. Let’s get to work. ConnectedWell.com; Twitter: @AskRobMerrill; People First Leadership: http://bit.ly/pplfirstldrs

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