Just don’t spend eons of time tho as you both have to get to doing the scene.
Focus Blue
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I disagree :) Discuss all you like. Personally, my first play partner was a very seasoned Sadist and a Dominant who discussed with me for almost a year and a half before I felt comfortable enough to play with him.

So my bit stays — discuss in as excruciating detail as possible — not to frustrate yourselves, but to ensure that you’re both as ready as you can be :)