Seven steps to being more “you” in your relationships.

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What you forget, your partner never does.

Next to every “upstairs” playful, spontaneous partner, there is a “downstairs” bitter partner holding reality. Lenka Sevcikova/Pixabay

Why do people forget?


Why do we always involve others in our intimate relationships?

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When do couples triangulate?


“Dare to repair” in love and life with these three steps.

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Maintenance sex is better than no sex.

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When the winner is the biggest loser.

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Your relationship is too precious. For every “mis-take,” give it a do-over.

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  • Happy couples maintain a minimum of 5:1 ration between positive interactions (lets call them Yeses) and negative interactions (Nos).
  • Relationship masters, have a similar quantity of arguments as unhappy couples but they are better at offering and accepting repair attempts. A repair attempt is “any statement or action — silly or otherwise — that prevents negativity from escalating out of control.” (Gottman & Silver, 1999).


Daring to experience the dark will increase your light.

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By calling yourself out, you will find progress and vitality.

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Are you a Turtle or a Thunderstorm?

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Why does conflict get such a bad reputation?

Assael Romanelli, Ph.D.

Couple and family therapist. International trainer and speaker. Improviser and multi-potentialite. www.potentialstate.com

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