AM I GOOD ENOUGH
Listen to yourself. Do it your way. Follow where your heart bounces. Go — Do — Create what lights you the fuck up. Not what everyone else is doing. It is scary to leave behind the pack and start going through a dark unpaved road. Embark on the path — you will cast your own light love. Do it your way and release what everyone else is doing/telling/everything you’ve filled your pretty little head with. It’s time to just. be. present with you and your wisdom.
“am I good enough?”
Four tiny words in the shape of a question. Yet this question can send anyone into a negative hole or it can be these four simple words that cling onto you so damn tight that you never ever make a move, follow your dreams, live your life…
“am I good enough?”
We’ve all asked ourselves this before and for some it is a question that still dances in the back of their minds and finds a way out every so often. For others it is a question that is constantly out in the open and seems to squash + terrify any bit of hope in pursuing what their heart wants — what would make them insanely happy. It feels safer to listen to this voice + question than to attempt something.
It is easier to stay small and not play big. It is less risky to stay than to go. If you believe you aren’t good enough than you know that you aren’t and you know that they will see that too. If you try with this question you will fail — in the sense that you will stay encaged by your own fear + you will let your self-doubt win. We must be willing to attempt — We must be willing to fail :: confidence will pick up as you progress.
What are you willing to do without, let go of and face for your passion + dreams?
Usually it’s the scariest things that reap the biggest reward + changes.
”You begin by always expecting good things to happen.” –Tom Hopkins
“am I good enough?”
Doubting questions + pondering + hemming & hawing :: all are surefire ways to avoid ever finding out what would happen –>
if you gave it a go?
you decided to try
you spoke up
you asked
Thing is it is easy for anyone else to tell you to go/try/speak up/ask but you have to be able to do just those things for yourself. You have to get away from the place of self-doubt + disbelief and take the initial step.
Weigh the odds. Tip the scale. You are just as good as anyone else.
“All I can tell you really is if you get to the point where someone is telling you that you are not great or not good enough, just follow your heart and don’t let anybody crush your dream.” –Patti LaBelle
How Can I Be So Sure?
1. Cuz everybody starts somewhere + What is “Seen” is a Filter…
Believe it or not we all are human. We all have flaws. bad days. amazing days. We all will have dragons to slay. When the “spotlight” shuts off + the makeup is off it’s a real flesh + bone person. The ones that seem like they have it fabulous all the time? The ones that seem like everything comes easy for them? The ones that seem like there is not a care in the world? Sure, anyone can turn a spotlight on + get airbrushed. We can create hype, fame. It’s easy. Ever scroll through your social media and feel depressed because everybody else seems to be doing so much better than you? It’s a choice selection / peak into their lives. It’s a filtered view. It’s the airbrushed version.
Want to keep staying small + feeling that you aren’t good enough? Scroll away, read all the newsletters + blogs, find + place mentors + guides on pedestals + idolize them + tell yourself “I want to be her/him” — It is a surefire way to put pressure on the boo boo.
“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
2. Tis Better to Try + Fail than not Try at All
As I discuss earlier in this post, you have two choices:: You can keep letting those negative doubting voices stay on loudspeaker + buy into them and stay safe + small ~OR~ you put a sock in that + try + attempt to play bigger. You will most likely experience both failures and victories. Failures are part of the learning process. You can read all the books, blogs and listen to as many webinars and purchase as many programs as you want but the best way to figure it out is by doing. If you continue to listen to your negative voice and let yourself buy into the idea that you are not good enough you will most likely wind up regretting not trying later.
3. You are good enough, believe it
Simple as that.
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Share with me on your best ways to get out of your negative head space + how you battle the question “am I good enough?”
Or, if you did push past it how does the other side look? I bet you don’t regret trying one bit.
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