I’m really sorry you’ve had this experience playing with mixed, I have never experience on either of the mixed teams I’ve played on — both teams were very aware that using your women (so the whole team) was critical to win games and to have fun, and while I did receive more feedback from guys than I would give out, I was (and still am) relatively new to ultimate and so I appreciate the feedback. Also, isn’t ultimate supposed to be about heckling? whenever I watch my friends play (guys or gals) I always heckle/cheer them on when appropriate