RELAX ENOUGH TO BE FULLY YOURSELF

Aurélie
Aurélie
Jul 28, 2017 · 7 min read

“Self-acceptance comes from meeting life’s challenges vigorously. Don’t numb yourself to your trials and difficulties, nor build mental walls to exclude pain from your life. You will find peace not by trying to escape your problems, but by confronting them courageously. You will find peace not in denial, but in victory.” Swami Sivananda

I’ve been thinking for a long time about writing concerning self-acceptance, but I never knew which was the great angle with such a large subject. After all, we all have different perceptions of what is essential to our well-being, and it is exactly what makes us all unique. I spotted though that for some of us, we tend to neglect the real purpose of our lives, by letting fear or anxiety, envy or meaningless emotions take advantage of our minds, and as a consequence, we might forget how fulfilling it could be for us and others if we’d focus on accepting things just as they are, but most of all, accepting ourselves. I finally went to the statement that the relation of harmony we want with others, first start by the one we are creating with ourselves.

So, given that I think that we unconsciously share common stories and struggles, I sort of putted out some ideas that may help you improving all of that, and welcoming maybe new ways of discovering yourself.

I first started by pointing out what would be the source for our frustrations.

Why do we feel submerged?

  • OUR DRAMAS
  • PEOPLE DRAMAS
  • PRIORITIES
  • DESIRES
  • LIFE’S REALITIES
  • WHERE WE GOING
  • WHERE OTHERS WOULD LIKE US TO GO
  • WHERE OTHERS ARE GOING
  • WHY DO WE CARE SO MUCH ABOUT THE OTHER GUY

  • « As we think, so we are »

All thoughts might turn into things eventually and have an effect on our emotions if we give them a value that don’t really matter. (worrying or struggling with them). Thoughts have to be organized, but still :

A thought is just a thought.

By chosing either to care about it or not, we also chose our state of mind. And by the way : not only thoughts are generating the way we might feel. As a matter of fact, the relationships we create, the food we are eating, the way we’re expressing, could all define how do we treat ourselves and in a certain way, how do we treat others. So even though it is easy to give yourself freely to anxiety and fear when you feel submerged by your thoughts, put on some courage, empty your mind, and face life with a beautiful smile.

  • “I am trusting my timing”
Hausas

Hausas often say : “However long the night,the dawn will break”.

Everything is going as it meant to be and it is alright. Rushing is sometimes crashing. Life is not a race. Taking time is luxurious to those who know how to appreciate it and use it wisely. It does not mean to wait for things to come to you on a silver platter, of course not, but rather to have enough stamina to know that anything is at the right place at the right moment and that all the questions we might ask ourselves have an absolute end, but most importantly that any investment on ourselves is never lost.

  • « No I‘m not taking any sh*ts today, I’m blessed and grateful! »

Living in a world of judgment ain’t easy if we take time to care. On the contrary, always bossing up our game, and taking everything as a chance to evolve is guiding us directly to a work on ourselves and not focusing on what others are saying or doing. Such as getting that failing and learning are synonyms, could drastically change our vision of trying. There is always a positive thing to be done, something to be improved. So in whatever we go, do, see and in whoever we be : It don’t matter towards all the greatness that we might have each morning while waking up : a new day, and then, new chances. Even though it won’t prevent us to complain either way for minor stuffs sometimes; while focusing on the glass half full, we always can get better. Believing in oneself is the secret for all of that. While you’re here, your ultimate mission is to be happy and share it with the ones around you. Life is about winning and losing, so chin up, empower yourself, and adapt to good and bad situations because that is the beautiful journey of our lives.


“Go with the wind, with solid and strong wings. ”


  • « I’ll do it tomorrow»

Being indulgent to oneself might help you keep going, but being lazy might help you nothing!

The work has to be done and nobody else but you have to make it. We all have those days, but putting a stone in the construction of the path you’re creating for your life is the best accomplishment ever. Nothing is too late to learn, getting interested in, get yourself to anything. Give yourself chances to experience things you’ve never done before. Life is offering so much things, you need to be grateful enough to take them.

  • “The power of humility”

« Humility is not thinking more about ourselves, or less. It is just stop thinking about ourselves. »

Problems of social medias nowadays are that they push ourselves to compare, makes us question about our conditions, makes us wish about how our life should or could be, but never embracing it at is own value. Humility is putting yourself at your truthful place, by thanking, being grateful for who you are and what you have. Just thinking for a minute to those who have clearly less than we do, or how would it be if we wouldn’t have these roof over your heads, food on your tables, people to love or talk to, (or Wi-fi to read my article), put everything into perspective. It is also by regarding to those you close yourself to, because they seem « too this » or « less that ». Everyone has its place down here, and once we’re focusing on superficial things, we won’t get to clearly see it. Give people a chance, just as you do for yourself. But most of all, spending time living someone else’s life, is not realizing the potential that you can grow within you. Bet on yourself.

  • Love is the key, let me embrace my flaws!

You, your loved ones, your God, your work or your passion : we all have someone or some things we find peace with. And for all of it : love is the key. We often neglect how much love represent to us , although we’re all the fruits of it. This is what is obviously keeping yourself in a good mental health, knowing that you are loved, and that you give love back. But most importantly, learning to love yourself just as you are, is the best gift you can do to yourself, and to those that loves you. Don’t ask yourself what they see in you, just be you and they will see it. Once you’ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you. We are not perfect, who could actually want to be flawless? This is all of those flaws that makes you, you. Love them, take them as strength, and celebrate your authenticity.

  • Master of my emotions

Everyone has emotions, but letting them control yourself, is letting them master your intelligence. Trust them, welcome them as friends, but don’t let them decide who’s the boss here. Be strong enough mentally to know that just as everything else, they come and go.

  • HOW FAR WE’VE COME
How far we’ve come

For everything we do in our lives, remembering where do we come from, or how far we’ve come, is guiding us to where we are going.

Just as my sweet mother would say, “The past is only the future with the lights on”.

Trust your past to guide your present, and believe in your present to build your future. Every mistake is a lesson, and from every lesson comes out a principle.

Relax enough to be fully yourself.


  • You’re not here for any reason.
  • We share common stories.
  • Sit down for humility
  • The only way you get to happiness , is through love.
  • Everything will be alright
  • Embrace those flaws
  • Trust yourself

Aurélie

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