Do You Love Yourself?
How well do you truly comprehend your own essence? Have you sincerely delved into the depths of your being, uncovering the intricate layers that define your identity? In a society inundated with external influences, one can easily lose sight of their authentic self.
Let us meticulously dissect this introspective journey.
To genuinely fathom oneself, embracing every facet with unwavering acceptance is paramount. Loving oneself in totality becomes the cornerstone, a prerequisite for extending that love to others. Imperfection is our shared human condition, and the pursuit of perfection, akin to divinity, is a lofty endeavour. Instead, attaining perfection in specific aspects, viewed through the lens of those who recognize our unique strengths, can be a more attainable aspiration.
While life’s trajectory may not align with our desired path, a steadfast belief in one’s abilities serves as a transformative force. Aiming for perfection, as some advocate, is secondary to the profound comprehension of life and the concurrent expansion of one’s soul. A misalignment in personal and spiritual growth diminishes the purpose of our existence.
The challenges life presents are not punitive; rather, they serve as catalysts for soulful expansion. The essence of our worldly sojourn lies in perpetual growth, an evolutionary journey toward self-discovery and transcendence.
Strive not for flawless perfection but aspire to evolve into an improved version of yourself. Endeavour to grasp a more profound understanding, a comprehensive perspective that transcends the limitations of a singular viewpoint. Life unfolds in myriad dimensions, and embracing this diversity enriches our perception of reality.
Reflecting on relationships, the allure of external attributes often overshadows the essence of self. A myopic fixation on beauty, financial status, or astrological compatibility veils our cognition. True compatibility arises from shared perspectives on life, coupled with individual uniqueness. A partner who embarks on a parallel journey of growth becomes an invaluable companion.
Love and attraction are prerequisites, yet the crucible of a challenging life fuels genuine personal development. No one commences existence as a pauper; our choices determine our trajectory. Self-improvement stems from a resolute acknowledgement that one deserves more. Viewing oneself through an outsider’s lens prompts self-examination — what emanates from within holds greater significance.
In moments of self-critique, where physical imperfections beckon scrutiny, shift the focus to the emotional expanse within. The size of one’s heart, metaphorically, supersedes physical attributes. Forgiving oneself for perceived missteps and reframing them as learning experiences fosters emotional maturity.
Personal anecdotes serve as vivid illustrations of growth. The recollection of a youthful infatuation, marred by impulsive actions, echoes the universal theme of evolving through missteps. Recognition of one’s inadequacies, subsequent laughter at oneself, and the assimilation of lessons heralds a profound metamorphosis.
The more, the bigger you fall, the higher you grow.
Have you seen someone grow when they are constantly running on a straight path?
No, you don’t.
You increase your pace, you burn more stamina, and you grow.
You climb Everest or any other height, you overwork yourself, and you grow.
You fall down a cliff but still somehow stand up, you grow.
Growing up is not easy but it’s not difficult.
Let’s speak about relationships.
You loved the other person so much but still, it didn’t end into anything.
Why?
The simple reason is that you were so in love with the thought of being with them that you forgot there was you there.
You forgot the purpose of why you are in this world.
You forget that what if one day they die or leave you, what would you do then?
Do you have a plan set in motion or an idea?
No! You don’t.
We don’t think about such things because we put a veil over our minds when in love, which we shouldn’t.
Why?
Because most of the time, we are looking at outer beauty, most of the time we are looking at someone in terms of money, possessions, and ease of living. We are looking at similar people, we are looking at astrological compatibility, we are looking at easy-going, we are looking at someone who doesn’t understand what real life is.
There is nothing good enough for someone because no matter what you do, they may still won’t like you. Because they are not grown enough like you. You need someone who looks at life in the same way as you, yet someone who is doing it differently.
You need someone who grows up with you, and who wants to help you grow.
Yes, love is required, a certain kind of attraction is required, but a complex life full of challenges makes you grow, easy life never does.
No one is born a beggar. It’s the choice whether to beg or to do something else. And even if you are born one, what are you doing to change your situation matters.
One simple reason is you deserve more. Look at yourself from another person’s perspective who hardly knows you. What do they look at? How do they feel about you?
Ask yourself this question.
Sometimes you may ask yourself a question- Why don’t I have the perfect face shape, why is there a mole on my face making me look bad, why am I so short in height, why am I fat, why am I so slim, etc?
Everyone hates something about themselves. Get out of it.
You got what you were given, so change what you can, if you can and want to.
But do you know what matters?
It is the size of your heart. Not physically but emotionally.
With time, you can easily forgive someone else, but do you ever forgive yourself for making the mistakes that you made?
What I want to tell you is that they were not mistakes, they were learning points. It was not in your hands why something happened the way it did, but what you can do is take it positively instead of negatively and grow up. Yes, just grow up.
Let me give a very short example of mine. I loved a girl before high school and there was this feeling that I wanted to marry her. Yes, a child of 12 years was thinking of marriage. But I knew that I wasn’t anyone worthwhile. I studied and had an aim that once I did this, I would tell her that I liked her. But as you know there’s never a right time for anything. I did reach my aim because that was my dedication towards the feeling but I didn’t try to know her enough or at all.
Yes! It led to rejection.
Yes! I laughed at myself.
Yes! I was hurt badly.
No! I never tried to contact her or explain what it was.
Yes! I forgot her completely.
No! It wasn’t easy. I laughed at myself. Instead of waiting patiently for more time, I listened to my friend and told her that I liked her when my heart was continuously telling me to wait and I ended up badly.
No! I don’t hate my friend, I don’t hate her and I don’t hate myself.
Why? Because I was wrong. I didn’t know what her priorities were, so I may have hurt her too.
But I grew up after this.
Yes, I am now confident that I won’t make the same mistake again and even if I do, I will take a lesson from it and grow up more.
I don’t believe in the master of one concept, I believe in the jack of all trades. Doing this won’t make you much money, but at least you will find out what interests you.
Forgetting someone when you are busy is not hard. Forgetting them when you are free is. Because then your mind is constantly thinking about them and the mistakes you made.
Well, you didn’t make any mistakes, you just weren’t prepared enough, you just didn’t think a few years ahead, both from the end of you and her’s.
You thought of your happiness only and not of hers.
For me, I am always playing with my life, doing the unconventional. Playing with it, getting faced with challenge after challenge, that’s how I grow.
It’s not that I don’t hate myself, I do a lot, but I am changing and hope to change more. I hope that you change too, not a change that someone else wants from you, but one that you want.
JUST GROW UP!
After reading this, at least question yourself what exactly is it that you want to do and just go for it.
Loving someone is your choice, making or forcing someone to love you is not. We are worthy of love, we all are and if you have faith in yourself and do what is right, you will get what is booked for you.
