The signs you've been a victim of ‘love bombing’

What Is Love Bombing?

This is the new trend in the book of relationships. Love bombing means when your partner pours you immense love and affection. It will be much more than you ever expected and could ever handle. They will give you a lot of attention for an initial few weeks so as to lure you into their vicious love trap. You will feel that you have met a perfect match for yourself, only until you wait for the drama to unveil.

In a healthy relationship, things go slow and steady. That is the way how it is supposed to work. But in love bombing, you will experience something opposite to that. Your partner will make you feel the most special you have ever felt. Suddenly you will become the most important person on this blue planet. They will say things which you hardly hear in the early stages of a normal relationship. They will take you to the moon and treat you like the treasured gem. Flatter you with dreamy dates and raise a toast to “Being SOUL MATES” within a few days of meeting you. But you should not mistake this for real because soon this love will fizzle out and you will be left all by yourself to repent at your decisions.

Giving genuine compliments to someone is part of a healthy relationship. Telling someone that how the colour suits them once in a while happens to everyone when they are dating. But if you are dating the much-dreaded love bomber, you will be getting plenty of compliments. The most common phrase you will be hearing is “You are the most beautiful person I have ever seen!”. You will suddenly be the best of everything that you are. But these compliments are mostly about your outer appearance because they don’t even know you as a person. They will never mention things like personality, morals, and ethics.

How To Deal With Love Bombing?

1. Put A Limit

It is very flattering to get romantic messages from your lover when you are in the boring confines of your office. It feels so good when you get that cute goodnight text before going to bed. The facade melts down when you are not able to concentrate on work in the office because your phone keeps pinging with messages and when you check, you have a 100 unread texts. It becomes unbearable at times. So you need to step up and let them know that you need concentration while you are working in the office. Put a limit to messages and give particular timings when they cannot disturb you with calls and texts.

2. Tell Your Flaws

We all love being complimented but if you are praised for everything you do, it loses the essence of it. You stop feeling good about it. The blush on reading their lovey-dovey texts has disappeared now. When dating a love bomber, they make you feel like a perfect, flawless human by giving you compliments all the time. However, you know your flaws and at times accepting false praise is something you should not do. So, let your partner know that how human you are. Correct them when they give a compliment for something that is not true. Make sure that you know each other as a person.

3. No Unnecessary Gifting

Your love bomber will pile your room with all sorts of romantic gifts before you even complete a month in a relationship. I know it feels good to get presents, but it loses meaning for birthdays and other special dates. Tell your partner if you are uncomfortable in taking so many gifts. Ask them to limit the gifts to occasions. In a way, it will make the relationship more normal.

There is a possibility of people having bad days and losing their temper on their partner. That is what you think at first too when your love bomber starts acting out. And they do come back to excess affection again after a few days of unreasonable anger. But before you know it, they come back to their bad mood again. The cycle keeps going. A lot of couples go through this for a long time before they realize how unhealthy the relationship is for them. Read more on What is Love Bombing & How to Deal with It?

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