It seemed that the best way to start my blog was to bring you up to speed. It would be impossible to fill you in on all that has happened over the last 31 years of my life but I think we can handle the last few days or so. Having 4 children is never easy on a marriage or relationship but I think if any couple were to ever have it down to a science it would be my wife and I. Now when I say “science” I don’t want you to get the impression that we’re some super couple because that would be the furthest thing from the truth. When I say “science” what I really mean is more of a controlled chaos. Everyone’s alive and breathing, everyone’s fed, but make no mistake about it things can get a little crazy in our house. That’s what happens when you have 4 children, especially two under two.
My wife and I spend more time talking to each other in “baby talk” then the actual English language. Our vocabulary consists of “she…babe…shes” and “he…babe…shes” (yes we’ve actually developed our own language) and we haven’t had an uninterrupted conversation in I can’t even think of the last time when. For those with kids this is the reality of life. It’s crazy, it’s hectic, and it’s exhausting so when we have an opportunity to go out alone with each other we jump all over it. In the beginning with just one kid (we call those the “golden years”) it was so easy to find a sitter, people would jump at the chance to watch our “perfect” little child, if you can believe this, we even went on vacation alone together (could you imagine?) But 10 years later and three others in the mix now and even grandparents aren’t answering their phones anymore.
Last Wednesday then, was a rare occasion on which the stars had aligned and we were able to catch some “alone” time together, just Katrina (that’s my wife) and me. Honestly I think we would’ve been fine going to dinner at White Castle just as long as there were no kids around, but we decided to have dinner at a local restaurant that was a little pricey (14 dollars for a hamburger pricey) but it had fairly good reviews so we gave it a shot. It was wonderful just walking into the restaurant together without having to juggle kids and diaper bags. It was wonderful not having to tie shoes or make bottles. It was wonderful just walking in without working up a sweat! Having 4 kids is like doing Cross-Fit but instead of pushing tires and dragging chains your pushing double strollers and breaking up fights. It was like we were young again even though I’m told 31 and 29 aren’t that old (You could have fooled me). For the first time in a long time it was “party of 2” and I was loving every minute of it.
As most married couples with kids know, the topic of conversation is never to far from them but it was still good. There was even a moment where we just sat there and stopped talking all together, just acknowledging the silence and how amazing it was. The food if your wondering was just “alright”, and that’s being kind. My wife’s dish was a little to salty and my supposed Kobe beef burger came out looking and tasting like a piece of charcoal from my grill, but in spite of all that the dinner was worth every penny. You can’t put a price tag on sharing time with the person you love, a person who’ve you’ve been to hell and back with. Spending precious time with someone who knows all the in’s and out’s of you and still aggress to be in the same room as you, let alone at the same table as you is priceless. It really is. I didn’t intend on my first post being so sappy like this but as I was writing this is what came out. The time we have on this earth is truly a gift and spending it with the people you love is what’s most important.