On Life: It Is Not In The Dots

I was sitting on a bench in a park, thinking about my life, and asking myself:

“Where am I?”

Then I remembered this video I watched a while ago about two boys, one with his so-called goals and the other one with his values.

You see the goals you're making all the way up until, maybe, over your 50?
If we put them on a timeline, you'll see the goals you're setting up would be pretty much the milestones of your life, the rest area of your journey, the pit stop of your race, the dots of your line.

You get there only to continue to the next dot. So where are we then, on a daily basis?

We’re on the line, connecting the dots.

You see, to every achievement, there will always be the satisfaction, the victory feeling, the pride, the reward to ourselves. But then again, for how long it will stay?

Maybe 2-3 days. 1 week the longest.

We all know the social media Path and maybe most of us use it daily. I think about this thing of goals-vs-values and it kinda reminds me of Path, how it represents life as a path that built of many moments in it.

That's what I'm talking about when I mention the dots above. The achievements unlocked are the dots of our life, the so-called big moments in our Path.

Now think about how often you post/upload something on Path which are mostly your big moments?

Between these dots, are the lines. The big moments make the dots stand out, but between these big dots are another thousand of little moments everyday, which make thousands of little dots, which form a line.

The big moments, which last 1 week the longest, well, might take only 10% of our whole time in life. So you can guess the other 90% certainly is the other little moments. The line.

So, don’t, please don’t count on the goals for your pursuit of happiness.

They won’t last long. If you rely on your goals to be happy, you might just get 10% of happiness, you might get only 10% of time being happy. Let’s say we live until 60, you’d only be happy for 6 years. And that’s quite a small number. At least for me.

Don’t rely on the 10%. Focus on the 90%. Enjoy the now, live in the present.

They say, happiness is our main goal in life. The others say, the goal is at least to be "not sad". For me, it is possible to be happy all the time, as long as we remember how to be grateful, and trust me, there are always something to be thankful of. Every day.

Look forward, but also look around.

We’re on the line, connecting the dots.