THREE LESSONS I LEARNT MY FIRST FEW MONTHS OF LIVING ALONE
- I left home for college two years ago. I was 18 and was gonna live alone and far from home for my first time.
I spent my final year in high school dreaming of this.
My friends and I would fantasize for hours about college life; living alone, partying, boys and a lot more.
But life doesn’t always turn out as we wish does it?
My university was miles away from home and none of my friends went along with me.
They all had other plans; well mostly that of their parents.
So I took the journey to the unknown, anxious of what awaited me.
There was nothing interesting to look forward to, not when i'd been separated from everything I held dear.
Long story short, I learnt a great deal those first few months but I chose to the share
the three most important to me.
- I LEARNT TO APPRECIATE SILENCE
- In contrast to my home and neighborhood where the noise never goes down, my hostel was tranquil. I’d stay in for hours in uninterrupted silence. I prayed more, read more and somehow started thinking of what I really wanted in life.
I’d head to my room immediately after lectures; partly because I didn’t have any friends yet but more because I’d found something new; I’d found company in silence and friendship in seclusion.
I LEARNT TO LOOKOUT FOR MY SELF.
This was a tough one, haven grown into the habit of missing classes and never taking notes because ofcourse my friends would, I had miserable days. Wishing I could get my highschool life back. I learnt to read notice boards, check my results and attend every class. I had to watch my own back, no one else did. I learnt to be accountable to me
I LEARNT TO MANAGE MY FINANCES
I'd never been a reckless spender but I wasn't a careful spender either. Depending solely on my Mum back then for money(I still do though not entirely) I knew I had to be careful. I'd make a list of every tiny need and get only them. No more no less. I shopped alone so that reduced the desire to buy other fancy things.
When i told my best friend of all the changes i’d made in my life, she was speechless on phone.
She said in a low and soft tune. 'you didn’t change meggie, living alone changed you’.
Till this day, I still ponder on the veracity of her statement. was she right?
Thanks so much for reading.