The Art of Being Important

Ayesha Liaqat
Jul 28, 2017 · 3 min read

“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”

John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

It is an instinct desire of human beings to be important. Everyone is wearing the mask of making feel him important. People love to talk about themselves, about their achievements, interests and other issues related to them. No one takes interest in others. Even I and you don’t show interest in others. It is a natural phenomena. If we want to be loved and important then we should have to take interest in people. As stated by Dale Carnegie:

I was not as studious to practice this quotation all my own. Indeed I got the Inspiration from the great author Dale Carnegie by reading his book “How to win friends and influence others”. He quoted beautiful examples of some famous personalities that how they won the heart of people. He described that the New York Telephone Company made a detailed study of telephone conversations to find out which word is the most frequently used. You have guessed it: it is the personal pronoun “I”. So before practising to show my interest in others I abolished the word “I” and got determined to show my genuine interest in others.

I spent two days asking people about themselves how they are? What’s going on nowadays? What further Plans they have? What are the problems facing by them? I even talked to persons with whom I hesitate to talk, whom I know they have negative thinking about me. The results were really amazing. I received positive responses from people when I asked about them, show my interest in them they really got happy and excited and in response they also showed their interest in me. They asked the same questions from me that I used to ask about them. I can feel their joy over being giving them importance, and caring for them. I really got inner satisfaction,and the happiness that stretches beyond my words.

“As you help people become successful eventually you will realize that the person you are helping the most is you”
Manuel Corazzari

It was the moment when I really got the point you have to be interested in people if you want to be a successful writer of stories. Now I am trying to suppress my will of being considered important rather than I am trying to be the person who cares for others, who gives importance to others, who makes people happy, one who helps people and solve their problems. I would like to conclude by this beautiful quotation:

“The beauty and mystery of this world only emerges through affection, attention, interest and compassion . . . open your eyes wide and actually see this world by attending to its colours, details and irony.”
Orhan Pamuk, My Name is Red

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