Happiness Is Loving & Being Loved
“Do This And You’ll Be Welcome Anywhere”. Wow. What an amazing chapter from the book How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
I was getting more & more interested in the book as I was reading this. While reading, I was like “OMG, like seriously, such simple tips can help us to win the hearts of others”. Is that really so simple?” And I find out that yes, it is.
“One can win the attention, time, and cooperation of even the most sought-after people by becoming genuinely interested in them.”
You will get attention from others simply by paying attention to them. It’s like when you give something to others, you can have something in return.
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
“Being interested” and “being interesting”. Don’t they sound similar? No, they are not similar but are inter-related in a way like “you can be interesting for someone if you are interested in someone”. Being interested matters a lot and I’m going to apply this rule in my life to have a wonderful experience.
One beautiful evening, I was sitting outside in the lawn and having tea. I was trying to make this evening more beautiful by having some chitchat with my friends and I applied the above rule that I learned so far. So, I took my cell phone and texted some of those friends to whom I normally don’t talk. Some of them were my school or college fellows while others were those with whom I spent time during my internship. They were really excited after getting my text and all of them responded very quickly and very well.
I was asking questions about them again and again. I was showing them that I’m quite interested to talk with them. It was like we are still school fellows and meet daily and there is nothing like it’s been 5 years since we met last time. I had a great time with all of them while chatting. They were all feeling much happy. I was sharing some of the memories of those days and they were saying: “Oh, you still remember what we used to do those days”. My experience is unforgettable. I felt that when you show interest in someone, that person automatically becomes interested in you. I have learnt a lot from it.
“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated”
So, if you want to be respected by others, first you must respect others. If you want to be loved by others, first you must love others. If you want to be cared by others, first you must care for others.