I’m a bad person, but I think a lot of people who plan destination weddings are dicks.
Vacations are expensive, I save for them, plan them neurotically, and want to do them MY WAY. I doubt a destination wedding will be the way I would do Tuscany. Also Tuscany isn’t on my list of destinations I want to go to. I think that people think it will be a fun vacation for everyone, but it is selfish. If you want to elope, or have a small destination wedding, go for it. But asking a lot of people to come and spend several grand on this — no.