I loved this piece. You stated what I have been trying to convey in my writing regarding this black guy vs. black lady issue. Since I have been on earth there has always been tension between the black woman and man however it is now out of control.

The main reason why black men and women need to find their way back to each other is the kids. Estimates of black kids in single-parent homes now are estimated to be 70 -80% versus 25% of white kids in single-parent homes. We all know some single moms that are amazing but statistics still show that kids do better with two parents. This is a CRISIS. We used to support each other for the most part and we absolutely supported our black kids as black families and the black community supported them as well. What are we doing?

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Beautiful article and well done.

Some of these assholes go so far as to even buy the long-suffering girlfriend an engagement ring without EVER setting a date just to keep her around!

The women who break my heart are the ones that give these creeps children while they are "waiting" for their special day. One of my good friends did this and he got married alright just not to her. Women need to leave these dudes alone.

In the black American community, we have a very low marriage rate as it is so this may be one of the reasons we do! That old saying about not buying the cow when you can get the milk for free may have some truth to it after all.

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Fannie Banks-Wells

Fannie Banks-Wells

Fannie is a blogger who runs a website called https://unclaimedtreasure.org. On her blog Fannie addresses the issues that face uncoupled African Americans.