Then I argue that it’s not really love you are choosing. You are choosing to be with that person and to be loving but being loving is the not the same as loving.
I love my mother and my sister and many of my exes, not because I want to but because I can’t help but to love them.
Just because I love them doesn’t mean I have to like them though. I want to not love them and I want to wish bad things for them but I can’t. No matter how angry they have made me or how much they have hurt me, I still love them. I want to hate them but I can’t.
Loving someone and being loving though are separate things and do not mean the same thing. You can love without being loving and you can be loving without love.