3 Signs You Are Hindering Your Own Growth

“Every child is an artist. The problem is to remain an artist once we grow up.” — Pablo Picasso

At the tender ages between infancy and 5 years old, children function at a “creative genius” level.

Over time, as children enter into formal education, they eventually lose out on their creative abilities as they learn how to think critically and focus on what is taught instead of thinking outside the box.

Consequently, as more children lose their creative genius growing up, they begin to develop insecurities.

In fact, 99% of the time, people can recall their first feelings of insecurity, which, more often than not, came from another person’s comments at an early stage in life.

For some, these hurtful thoughts and feelings have inhibited, or prevented, their own growth. They’re trapped by their own thoughts, feelings, and values of inadequacy and unfulfillment.

Fortunately, dealing with insecurity and self-attainment gets easier over time.

Those who managed to get to a point of self-attainment overcame a variety of mental obstacles — most notably, revolving around a mindset of fear.

They overcame their fears about:

  • Rejection

They began to care less about someone’s approval or understanding of them in order to validate their own journey.

  • Ruin

They stopped ruminating over mistakes and instead learned to embrace the lessons from them instead of the results coming from their mistakes.

  • Regret

They started making choices and accepting them instead of letting their fear of possible regret stop them and keep them stagnant.

  • Responsibility

They realized that more amazing lessons and great experiences can come from taking on more responsibility

In order to overcome the above fears, look no further than your own bad habits.

Your bad habits are merely a result of the insecurities you’ve experienced when you were younger.

These three habits, in particular, tend to keep most people from growing toward a more fulfilled self.

1. You rely on the same habits

Some people have a strong “spidey sense” or gut feeling that they rely on to get them through most, if not, dodgy situations.

Some people research and plan IMMENSELY before entering a situation; conversely, other people just jump right in and forgo the thought of consequences.

You have either heard of these habits work well for other people — or yourself — and having them more or less helped them (or yourself) survive through life.

However, it may be BECAUSE of these habits that you aren’t progressing towards what you want in life — in fact, you could be using your own habits as a crutch in order to deal with any situation you come across.

Think about the times you may have used your intuitive (or spidey sense) feeling. Chances are, you may have missed out on what’s right in front of you and forgot to live in the moment.

When you plan too much by including every possible “if-then” scenario — including the bad scenarios — you lose out on precious time ACTUALLY performing and going through the experience, which gives you more opportunities to learn and prepare, not plan, better moving forward.

This is not to say that you should just forgo preparation; rather, learn to transcend your habits and grow forward with them by acknowledging certain habits aren’t useful for every scenario in your life.

It’s never too late to learn a new skill — in this case, the opposite of your typical habits.

2. You are an information junkie

Do you find yourself consuming information frequently but not doing anything about it?

Yes, it also included consuming the information you found from watching TikTok “how-to’s” or looking through Instagram Reels.

If you are constantly fascinated from just merely consuming information that others have presented to you but not applying it yourself, why don’t you?

Perhaps, you are afraid of failing at it? Or trying it out yourself and it not coming out just like you saw in your mind and on the information you read or watched?

Again, sometimes, the best teacher in life is not one that we have guiding us through the information we consume from others.

After all, who’s to say that the information you just learned may or may not work for you just as it has for the people who you learned it from?

3. You look at things by cost, not opportunity

One of the most foundational principles in economics is the notion of opportunity cost, which is what happens when you are thinking of giving up or sacrificing when making any choice.

More often than not, people look through the lens of opportunity cost as a reason not to do something.

The mere thought of sacrifice scares off people from committing to actions that would ironically help them grow.

When you don’t want to delve with sacrifice, you forgo the potential benefits that could come; hence, if you look at the COST of each choice you make instead of the OPPORTUNITY that can come with it, you’ll limit your own potential outcomes based on “price.”

There is literally a cost to doing anything in this life.

By reading this entire article in itself, you are sacrificing time you could’ve spent elsewhere.

However, you’ve (hopefully) gained an opportunity for better self-insight just by reading this article in its entirety.

Felix is the principal owner of MSC Innovations, a consulting agency that helps small to medium-sized businesses maximize their business revenue through the creation of an entire digital suite.

Felix has more than 10 years of experience in digital marketing, sales, and communication management.

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Felix Lopez

Felix Lopez

I create videos of me: * Trying new things * Speaking on the mindset I wish I knew when I was 20 And then share it with people