I’m Not a Feminist

I think it’s awesome when women empower each other instead of tearing each other down. And I think it’s great that women have the same rights as men now, as we should. I am all for equality and all that. This is not a political statement in any way nor do I want to speak down upon any strong, independent women fighting “the man”. That’s awesome and I applaud you. I however, am a little more old fashioned. In high school people would ask me what I wanted to be or what I wanted to go to school for and I would always give them either an “I don’t know yet” or I’d say whatever career came to mind. Honestly, what I really want to be when I grow up is a mother and a wife. I didn’t even want to go to college. I watch I Love Lucy and Leave it to Beaver and I envy the woman on that show that have husbands and kids. They stay home and clean and cook and have babies. I want you to take me seriously when I tell you that is my dream. I love the idea of dressing up in a dress (or sweatpants, I’m not that old fashioned) and staying home with the babies all day and have a big meal ready for my husband when he gets home from work. I listen to stories my grandma tells me of raising eight kids while my grandpa went to work and she had dinner for all ten of them. That’s what I want…to an extent; God bless you Monica. Eight kids is a lot and I was thinking maybe three or four for myself. I have the desire to do that one day, but unfortunately society has shifted a bit and roles have changed. Obviously, I could still do all of that one day for my husband and kids but for now I am on my own, trying to provide for myself. I admire women who work hard at their careers and come home to their house, either alone or to a husband, and they can say they have provided. Truly, I admire you. It’s just not in my heart to want that. Don’t get me wrong, I desire to have a successful photography business and I work hard for that; hopefully one day it will be enough to provide for myself. And if I don’t find a husband, it’s not the end of the world. Woman want equal rights and to close the wage gap. Absolutely! That should happen (even though I personally think we are already pretty equal). For women like me, I feel like we are getting a bad name and it’s almost looked down upon to want to be a stay home mom. I also think we should continue to shave our legs and wear bras in public, but hey, to each their own. It’s almost seen as “more powerful” to be a woman independently working for herself, rather than settling down with a man and raising children. That’s fine; I don’t really care what anyones opinion of me is but it would be nice if we still acknowledged that woman like me are still around. I don’t really have much else to say other than we should all agree woman are amazing, no matter what we want to do.

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