Frankly that was a little scary/depressing for me.
I’ve pretty much of made peace with my lack of close local friends, but my 2 older kids (18)hardly ever see me in a social context that’s not family. They are only with me every other week, but that means that on the rare occasions I do catch up with friends it’s usually on non kids weekends due to logistics.
My son seems to be fine, very social, maintains his networks, but my daughter is a loner. She’s just finished highschool, she had friends she saw at school, but hasn’t socialized with any one outside of school hours in … 3 years or more. She’s about to start university and is hoping to meet her tribe, but says she’s OK if she doesn’t. I certainly haven’t been a good role model for her.
This isn’t a “poor me” post, but really I haven’t had a non-family/non-work social event since we were in Sydney back in November (we’re in Perth 4000km away). Now I think about it I guess I have been a role model for my daughter, or at least she’s modeled herself after me.
BTW as mentioned by a few other commentators: how did you find your people?
In any case, a thought provoking post.