gina,thank you for sharing your story — I’m sure it will help some others. it’s a terrible thing, isn’t it, that such huge things we sometimes have to learn the hard way?
I tend to think that women are still often socialized to go many extra miles — in anything — or face condemnation. something that helped me deal with this was imagining that some other woman had my problem. I might not feel that I had the right to look after myself, but I would DEFINITELY think that another woman should :)))))
it can be a pretty sick world ;)