my god, what makes you think no one gives a shit?!
like, who exactly?
I’m female, 63 — or 62, I forget — and I’ve been where you are. that age anyway. and I remember it really clearly. what I think I remember is that I WISHED no one gave a shit — at that age, my female friends and I were trying to make a lot of changes in a world that didn’t work for us, and TONS of people gave a shit — and didn’t like it. is putting it mildly.
are you familiar with the book The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner? a US feminist psychologist. it’s a classic. for women who are angry but don’t know what to do about it — and she helps you to figure it out for yourself. to know HOW to figure it out for yourself. and it sure as hell worked for me, many times. the bottom line is, you take some action, carefully-figured-out action, so that your anger doesn’t degenerate into depression.
that’s what to do with anger — use it.
Much of what you speak of is about the market economy — it amazes me that we’ve developed marketting to a university level. trying to convince someone to buy a product has become insanely insidious, esp for women. as consumers, and having free speech, we have TONS of power to force changes.
we just need to DO something.
and Holly, I adored this post —if I had a daughter who’d done this, I’d be very proud.