Does it make sense from an evolutionary standpoint for women to want sex after their bodies are no longer able to reproduce? The female body was designed for procreation which is why we have uteruses, produce eggs, and have intercourse. Once we’ve done our job of reproducing or have reached an age when it is no longer possible, the body slowly loses its ability to do so which coincides with our dwindling desire to have sex. Seems logical, right? Nature is telling us to focus elsewhere in our lives. How about putting that former sexual energy into developing our creativity and into what we want next in life?
A gynecologist in the UK named Christiane Northrup who is also an authority on women’s well-being said, “In indigenous cultures, you couldn’t be a shaman until after your ovaries had packed up. You retain all your blood. It doesn’t leak out which means you retain your wisdom.” Much to learn from shamans!
After reading a great many articles about the post-menopausal body as well as conducting my own informal market research, there is little evidence that women are pining for sex. Rather, there is an acceptance of the new norm which is typically accompanied by a statement such as, “I have no sex drive, I’d rather sleep,” or “I don’t care about sex, but I’ll do it once in awhile for the relationship” and lastly, “Occasionally I masturbate.”
Let’s talk about post-menopausal-midlife-masturbation. My unscientific, informal research showed a combination of women who masturbate once or twice a month, and some who do it because their doctor suggested it because it’s good for your health. The majority of women who admitted to masturbation preferred using a vibrator. The type of orgasm you prefer would influence the kind of toy you would use. There’s a world of options to choose from and Babeland is a great retailer to buy from either online or in store. Go to www.babeland.com
Even with the help of our electronic friends, it may still be difficult for us Perennials to reach orgasm thanks to decreasing estrogen levels which can cause vaginal dryness from the thinning of the uterine lining. If this is an issue, ask your gynecologist about the following treatments:
- Taking oral estrogen replacements can help relieve symptoms of low estrogen levels, including vaginal dryness. For many women, estrogen therapy can make sex more comfortable and enjoyable.
- There are topical estrogen creams that can deliver estrogen to the body and help to increase vaginal lubrication and sensitivity.
- Testosterone therapy is another option when taken orally to help improve sexual desire.
In spite of having a diminished sex drive and/or ability to achieve orgasm, there are still reasons not to give up. Achieving orgasms has multiple health benefits such as stress and headache relief, and better sleep due to the release of the hormone known as oxytocin, also known as the “love hormone.” So let’s not give up quite yet!