I’m going to re-read this quite a bit. I just came out of a “relationship” where my needs weren’t being met, and it’s hard, because I keep thinking I was doing it wrong. I wasn’t trying to possess . I wanted to be with someone who wanted to be with me.
But I needed support. Not always, just sometimes. I didn’t want a “I’ll see you next month” situation, and unfortunately, that’s what I got.
It helps that you can still have needs and want to love lightly. That you can still want a shared existence, even if they will leave. I spent the last few years without my needs being met thinking I was being needy. Nope, I was not getting my needs met.