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My husband and I have been married for kind of a long time.

It doesn’t feel that long to us, but I guess 36 years seems like a lot to a lot of people. It’s longer than any of our friends have been married, so I guess we’re no longer beginners.

Once you hit a certain number of years together, people start asking what your secret is. I was shocked the first time it happened. I mean, marital longevity is what our parents had. We’re just getting warmed up here! But the question keeps being asked, so here goes.

Outside of sheer, dumb luck (and the importance of this must not be underestimated in the pursuit of a happy marriage, even though I never see it mentioned in any “How to Make Your Marriage Great” articles), the next thing you need is the frequent deployment of three little words. …


Barb McMahon

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