“There comes a time when the world gets quiet and the only thing left is your own heart. So you’d better learn the sound of it. Otherwise, you’ll never understand what it’s saying.”
Sarah Dessen, Just Listen

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Sarah’s final three words urge us to learn the sound of our heart or, will NEVER understand what’s it saying.

How true of reality that can be? It seems like our world now and as before regulates us to become basic machines. Think this way, dress that way, mimic this way, etc.

Let’s adjust the magnifying scope: our family, our mentors, our friends urge us to be something we may not be. We allow them to be the power plants of our hearts and we run full steam with their council. …

As Michael Korda eludes to one cannot learn to acquire power through a set of rules. This book written back in the ’70s is a timeless gem. I highly recommend purchasing the book here to refine your power game.

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There are principles to abide by below to start and maintain the power mechanism.

1: “Act impeccably! Perform every act as if it were the only thing in the world that mattered”

2: “ Never reveal all of yourself to other people, hold something back in reserve so that people are never quite sure if they really know you.”

3: “Learn to use time, think of it as a friend, not an enemy. Don’t waste it going after the things you don’t want.” …

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It seems to tackle the most pernicious problem, I have to start with a question.

For example, why does a problem seem to be pernicious?

I grew up in a hyper-religious household and given a name that revolves around being a something far greater than any human should bare.

Barnaby — Son of comfort, consolation, or encouragement.

Below is the mindset of my mother when she named her last child of six.

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“Because you symbolize the Holy Ghost, the comforter of God, Satan was trying to destroy you but Jesus has other plans for you.”

I don’t mind the following encouragement after that quote and I understand my mother was writing this out of an innocent place. …

Here’s what I have learned from In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by Dr. George Simon.

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1 & 25 people are sociopaths or 4% of our population.

Most sociopaths are within the walls of our workplace than the walls our criminal institutions.

Why? Covert-aggressors hide their tracks and prey on those with a conscious. Sociopaths, unfortunately, do not possess a conscious and will most likely live a life “winning.”

I recently walked away from another sales job due to covert-aggressive nature of the business. …

Barnaby Alkire

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