Brenda Barros RiverainCreate Safe RelationshipsDoing Anti-Racist Work As An Ally Includes Adding Nuance To Boundary Setting WorkThis post is directed at allies of anti-racist work: I’ve been grappling with the intersection of boundaries and anti-racist work for some…Jun 9, 2020Jun 9, 2020
Brenda Barros RiverainCreate Safe Relationships5 Things That Will Keep Us “Performing” Ally-ship Instead Of Being True AlliesSo a thing about being allies…we aren’t born knowing how to be one. Even having great intentions isn’t enough for us to be allies in an…Jun 3, 20201Jun 3, 20201
Brenda Barros RiveraDr. Nicole LePera’s History of Gaslighting People of ColorI am disheartened and disappointed that I even feel the need to write about this, but right now we are living in a time where people in…Jun 2, 20208Jun 2, 20208
Brenda Barros RiverainCreate Safe RelationshipsNarcissistic Abuse Also Exists At WorkThinking back with the knowledge I now have, I could see it. From the initial love bombing “You’re the best employee there is,” to the…Jun 1, 2020Jun 1, 2020
Brenda Barros RiveraAs We Amplify Melanated Voices On Instagram, Let’s Make Sure We Do So In A Power-Sharing WayThere is a powerful movement on Instagram initiated by Alishia McCullough (IG @blackandembodied) and Jessica Wilson (IG…Jun 1, 20201Jun 1, 20201
Brenda Barros RiverainCreate Safe RelationshipsThese Behaviors Will Keep Us From Being Optimal Allies For Our Black Sisters and BrothersThis piece is geared to non-Black people of color and White people who want to be allies to Black people but find themselves getting stuck…Jun 1, 2020Jun 1, 2020
Brenda Barros RiverainCreate Safe RelationshipsUnsafe People Can Hurt Us. The Levels Of Safety Framework Can Help Us Identify ThemNot being sure whether someone is a “good” or “bad” person can be confusing. There are so many ways to define good or bad depending on our…May 21, 20201May 21, 20201
Brenda Barros RiverainAscent PublicationFreedom: My Unexpected Gift From An Encounter with NarcissismI was smart and hardworking. Agreeable, eager to take on a challenge, and motivated. The ideal employee, really. You could describe me as a…Feb 15, 2020Feb 15, 2020
Brenda Barros RiverainCreate Safe RelationshipsThe Purpose of Boundaries Is To Protect UsBoundaries have a negative connotation for many people. Some people think of them as incredibly harsh. Others, as the in-laws of one of…Feb 7, 2020Feb 7, 2020
Brenda Barros RiveraWhy We Try To Control Others And How To StopOwning that I attempted to control others is definitely not something I’m proud of. I always thought that I was really laid back and…Feb 7, 2020Feb 7, 2020