Super entertaining “vent” about peeps you’ve perceived to play the oneupmanship card with you (which is really what you’re referring to here).
And don’t take this as a slight, but intellectual pomposity doesn’t fall under the Gaslighting label. What does, however, is calculated attempts by another (usually an intimate…
Attraction, or the notion of BE-ing more queued-up to one TYPE versus another… it’s all an unconscious directive (a brain chemical that isn’t always under our full control)… no matter how many ‘empowerment or else’ extreme feminists get pissed off at that.
More here: https://medium.com/@barrygoss/how-beta-bucks-ken-lost-barbie-to-g-i-joe-438ba7eeaa7b
Anything and everything inter-sexual / gender / personal… it’s always going to BE a two-way street on MANY levels. Not all. But MOST of our exchanges & experiences have to come from a place of “dealing with our own shit” responsibly.
Life truly does happen THROUGH (not TO) us!
Hi Mary, great essay. It definitely hammers homes the finer points of how teetering Attachment (Connection) with Detachment (Vulnerability — in trust, patience, faith, etc)… its one of life’s greatest pursuits of self-growth.
Reminds me of what Satyen (from http://warriorSage.com) once wrote:
Nico…. you’re a man of devout, yet ever-changing, conviction I see.
As I was reading your list of apps, I’m thinking, “he reminds me of a friend who swears he found the perfect street taco at__X. He stays with that Taco Truck vendor until… oh, wait, ‘I just found Jose’s around the corner.. now he has the the most perfect…
Here’s my thoughts on the word, “Mansplaining.”
Wake da hell up!!!!… and quit inventing bullshit ‘gender-competitive’ words…
“Mansplaining” is about as rationally legit as the overly self-distracting and outwardly shame-focused phrase as “toxic masculinity.”
And, my well-appreciated engaged reader (Nicholas), I submit to you that when our reptilian brains strip away all the gloss and lofty ideals and do-gooder precepts… it’s that “core” that ONLY matters.
Study by Havas Media:
“..In Europe and the US, People Would Not Care if 92% of Brands Disappeared.”
Interesting take on tying in emotion to a “brand”, or usage of how certain rankings may affect loyalty… yet, I had to finally succumb to one simple fact (thank you Bob Hoffman — he’s mentioned in my article):
In the end, we consumers cud truly care less about the ‘B’ word, outside of what ultimately matters most:
Perfectly stated — succinct, on-spot, and jives with the hermetic Principle of Rhythm and the law of cause and effect.
Compensation, indeed, comes from the level of energy we’re open to giving to something beyond ourselves; to facilitating without knowing what the end result will be.