This can go both ways. My first wife I thought I could save her. She had severe anxiety. I helped her get through school, get a job, go to counseling, get on the right meds. I got up every morning made her breakfast, kept the house, worked and brought in a decent income and life for us. Once she “got it together” she cheated on me with several men. It hurt so bad, then she asked me to leave which I did without a fight.
Since then I met a woman that is a real partner. She already had it together and we compliment each other. I love her like I have never loved before. The right man or woman is out there, find one that has their shit together already and that can compliment you.